I have a friend who is one of my closest. She can get quite jealous of me and my life, the latest being my parents have said they would have children for a weekend so we can go away. And she posted about this on Facebook. Her life is difficult at the moment because she has a disabled daughter, and they are trying to raise money for a build to convert their house, so I do have sympathy for that. She has also been jealous of other friends I have gone out with, and not her. I honestly don't know what to do. Apart from come off Facebook.
You sound like a bit of a bitch to be honest. Have you offered to help her with her DD? or do you sit there talking about the nights out you go on and the holidays you take?
All I'm saying is, try to look at things from her point of view. She's skint, disabled daughter, little support, trapped, exhausted and fed up with everything and the situation in which she can do fuck all about. She see's you for what she hopes to offload and you talk about nights out you've had and holidays to go on. I'd be jealous as well and a bit pissed off into the bargin.
You wont mean to but I wouldn't be surprised if she felt a bit shit after talking to you. We know you wont mean to, but that's how she may feel.
We went on holiday together, we go to every fundraising event. I wish I hadn't posted on here to be called a bitch. I babysit all the time, I look after her kids she looks after mine. She is one of my closest friends. We holiday in GB every year in the last 5 years she has been to Fuerterventura and Walt Disney World. She has been away with her husband for her anniversary this year. I just find her a bit too much, and she relies on me as being her closest friend, but I need my life too surely!
You are allowed to share your good times, it's not fair that you should have to walk on eggshells. I've just given this lecture to my 13 yo who gets very jealous of what her friends are doing on FB! As an adult your friend should be mature enough to cope with you having a bit of good fortune.
This started with a general post on Facebook where I said my parents would have the kids, and where should I go. My friend suggested abroad. Oh and she goes on more days out than me, I said I couldn't come on one for various reasons. I rarely go on nights out that don't involve her. I put a post for fundraising ideas on the SEN thread as we are running out of ideas ourselves. I guess I'm saying I do lots, and I should have put this in my original thread. Words do hurt still I guess
Some oddly hostile responses on here. You do NOT sound like a bitch. Her life is her responsibility and it is not relevant if you happen to have time away and she does not. How petty of her to rant about that on FB. However, as a separate issue she is obviously struggling so I would cut her some slack for a while and maybe change your FB settings so you only see most important posts from her. At the same time offer to help her out but if she remains petulant and jealous, there is not much you can do and you may have to move on. Some people just bring you down unintentionally I personally would be delighted for a friend in your position, not pissy and self-pitying. Some people are beyond me.
I didn't think it through when I was writing the first post. I could never drop her as a friend, I look at her family and think how much I always with have compared to her. I should never have said anything really, and she helped get me through my depression, so I owe her lots too. I am finishing now. Thanks for all words of support.
OP, you know what your friendship is like. You know if you brag, you know if you are supportive. If you feel she is running you down then you either ignore it as a bad day, you pull her up on it ( not on FB or text) or you shrug and cool the friendship.
Don't let it ruin your treat away (I am jealous though, can I borrow your parents?)
"You sound like a bit of a bitch." What the actual fuck? No you don't, not at all. Enjoy your holiday. When you come back you should offer to care for your friend's daughter or if she is too much to look after alone then offer to help out with chores or something
Quite apart from saying you sound like a bit of a bitch, how on earth did you deduce that the friend is trapped, has little support and can't do little about it Bollocks ? Loads of assumptions made there about a stranger from the brief op.
Then again if you'd be pissed off and jealous too, says plenty about you and your attitude to friendship.
Op, you are right to be hacked off if you feel you need to edit your life for her approval. Take a step back.
After reading your second post, your friend is not being nice to you if she is writing something nasty or upsetting about your holidays in FB. If that is the case I will take many steps back in the friendship, if she is your best friend she should be happy for you. Have a nice time with hubby, and forget about her.