I dont know if this is actually a problem or if its just me being a bit of a freak and worrying too much.
Since having DD I like to keep budgets. I write things down a lot. I make meal plans and write shopping lists and keep to them in the supermarket. It has meant that I feel safe in the knowledge I wont be caught short and I will always be able to provide for DD. It also means I can budget for larger expenses like xmas.
When DP and I moved in together I lost all my benefits. That was fine. At the time he was working and he was providing for all of us. His money was our money. When he lost his job though, it all went tits up.
We are slowly getting back on track after going through a period of having literally no money coming in. It was all very stressful. But now that we are getting some money again its all falling apart.
If we get a lump sum , eg tax credits, I will want to budget it. Work out what we NEED and then keep the rest for the everyday bills for the next 4 weeks.
DP wants to spend it. Its driving me insane that he cant seem to think forward and have the foresight to see that we need to save for xmas/a new car etc etc.
We also have a lot of things still to get for the baby which is due in a month. He is fixated on this. Seems to think that any money we get will buy these things but fails to remember that we actually have to eat and pay the bills after the baby is born.
Its as if the impending fatherhood has turned him into a sullen teenager.
Is it just me being a control freak? How do I make him understand where Im coming from?
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wannabedomesticgoddess · 28/09/2012 12:29
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