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Tell me I'm being neurotic!

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MuckyRedSheet Sun 23-Sep-12 11:53:45

New man - met my kids yesterday for the first time - it went really well, we all got on great. When we parted he text me saying he was chuffed it had gone really well.

Last night he had his kids over and I was on a night out. He text me a couple of times over the night and I text him back.

Today - nothing. First time he's ever not text me in a morning since we met. I text him goodnight last night and never got a reply.

I'm probably over thinking it arnt I? It's just with him meeting the kids yesterday I'm a bit on edge!

MsKayGee Sun 23-Sep-12 12:13:53

You're being neurotic grin

He could have dropped his phone in the bath and it's not working. His battery could have died and he can't find the charger. He could have been up and out early with the kids this morning and accidentally left his phone at home. He could have sent you a text this morning and either your network or his is having a brainfart and it's not delivered yet. Don't start working yourself up into a state of anxious and needy, which I know is easier said than done.

MuckyRedSheet Sun 23-Sep-12 12:19:13

I know you're probably right, it's just so out of character for him. Honestly, 1st time since we met that he's not sent a good morning text. And the fact that he never replied to me last night is weird too. He always replies.

I'm not allowing myself to text him first though, I refuse!! grin

But then, where do you draw the line between playing it cool and starting to wonder if something might have happened to him?

If I give him until 4pm to get in touch before I text him is that non-needy enough? blush

Rindercella Sun 23-Sep-12 12:31:25

You're being neurotic. Seriously, you are being neurotic!

How long have you been seeing him for? Sounds like you had a good time with him and your DC and that the first meeting went well. Perhaps he's busy with his own children? I reckon you should turn your phone off and go and do something lovely with your DC to save you fretting. Keep busy and I bet he calls you later on.

Flojo1979 Sun 23-Sep-12 12:35:01

You are being neurotic!
If he'd been on the night out then maybe I'd be a lil worried, but home with is kids, u r being neurotic. He probably only sees his kids at wkend and wants some quality time with them. He'll be in touch later.

stuffitunderthebed Sun 23-Sep-12 12:35:13

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nannyof3 Sun 23-Sep-12 12:54:03

I would be the same.. But i over think things !

I would call him on private number and see if he picks up.. Im weird tho blush

ChitchatAtHome Sun 23-Sep-12 13:09:04

You are being neurotic - but it's completely understandable that you are. Him meeting your DC is a big step, and it would be surprising if you DIDN'T analyse everything at the moment.

Pancakeflipper Sun 23-Sep-12 13:10:12

Neurotic. But lovely.

MrSunshine Sun 23-Sep-12 13:10:47

Yes to neurotic. But how new is new?

MuckyRedSheet Sun 23-Sep-12 13:19:56

He text me blush

I always tend to think worst case scenario - I do my own head in!

Thanks for the reassurance and kind words smile

Pancakeflipper Sun 23-Sep-12 13:26:28

So was it a lovely text? Come on share! wink

MsKayGee Sun 23-Sep-12 13:31:01

From the little you've posted about him he sounds like a good 'un. He's met the kids and they didn't scare him off grin Time for you to relax and enjoy it!

MuckyRedSheet Sun 23-Sep-12 13:58:48

It was a lovely text grin asking how my head was after my night out and asking what I was upto for the rest of the day with a few kisses [ridiculous grin smiley]

And then another one asking when we can meet up again.

He's lovely, don't know why I fret so much.

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