DP's Dbro has been a heroin addict all his adult life. There are possible reasons that go back to their childhood, a tragic event he has never dealt with and some very poor parenting. He has never been to the GP or had any professional treatment. He very regularly comes off the heroin, usually going back to his DM's to withdraw, lasts a short while (maybe a week or two, probably less - it's hard to know) then goes back on it.
There are lots of drugs where he lives. He has a council flat he would not want to give up and a casual manual job (he was very academic at school).
He has had a heart attack and various other mishaps and awful happenings and has recently admitted he feels he is heading downhill.
We all find it inevitable that this will eventually kill him. His mother has already lost a daughter. DP wants to pay for rehab and his DB is very keen. It will cost us thousands and we are already bringing up his sister's child after her death.
DP just says we have to try it although he agrees it seems hopeless without a plan for when he gets home. THe place we have in mind is a long flight away and I don't even think DP has considered how we are going to manage him on the flight if he hasn't gone through withdrawal before.
I just don't see the point unless we make him show his commitment first. We can technically afford it although it will have its impact.
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chavguevara · 23/09/2012 11:32
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