My last partner (DS's dad) was overly affectionate and quite smothering, he said "I love you" all.the.time. Ultimately he was a cheat and so it was clear to me that saying I love you and gushing all the time meant jack shit.
Of course my next partner (current partner of 5 years, we live together) was an antidote to that. The strong, silent type. Very few compliments and "I love yous" But they were all heartfelt when they did come. And when they did, I was like a little child being given a treat. Sad really, on reflection.
So it's now been 6 weeks since the last time. Which was, I think, only because I said it and he said it back. Beofe that it was a month previous, after an arguement and the context was "We'll make this work... I love you"
I feel stupid even asking this. It sounds so needy and ridiculous. But what exactly is normal?! Is 10/12 times a year what ther people do?? I don't want to be one fo those couples that say "love you" flippantly at the end of every phone call - but when we discussed it a few years back we both said that it was nicer to hear it when it was really felt rather than just out of habit. I stand by that but I wish that he "really felt" a bit more often.
I say it more tha him but to be honest I've stopped now as I feel needy and daft.
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"I love you" What's normal?
nomoreiloveyous · 23/09/2012 11:00
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