I have a really good friend who is a great person, coping in adversity, single mum, alcoholic Ex, difficult relationship with her parents. I moved away from our home town as I got married but our friendship has weathered this.
She has kids who are.. shall we say.. "lively".
The have been to stay a couple of times. Particularly on their way to and from the coast. The difficulty I have is that my normally serene and child focussed (disney dad) DH has put his foot down about having them again and it is causing me some conflict.
Back story - Friend's DD slept in my DSD's room (DSD was at her mum's) last time they stayed. My DSD had saved some easter eggs which were on the top of her wardrobe. The easter eggs went missing (though the boxes were left). The only other people who could have eaten them were myself and my DH, we have worked out it could NOT have been my DSCs who ate them. I cleaned the room just before they arrived and it was ME who hid the eggs on top of the wardrobe and I noticed they had been eaten before my DSC came back.
DSD was bereft at the loss of her carefully saved eggs (also a story there but for another post). DH was furious. I was defensive about my friend but there was no other explanation to the loss. I didnt tell my friend as she was on holiday by then and I didnt want to ruin it or our friendship over some f88ing easter eggs. She can be very defensive about her kids (i know this from a similar situation which developed with another friend).
This was some time ago. Friend wants to come and stay with her kids again. DH is very anti and won't consider it. I have had to ask my DSD if she is ok if her bedroom is used (she says no, understandably). I am stuck in the middle. Friend has told me, since then, that her DD has been stealing from her (money) and taking food.
Its a silly condundrum, given how terrible some of the problems that are posted here but I have to say something to her, and soon!
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How do I deal with my friend?
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taxiforme · 22/09/2012 08:26
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