We've been married almost a year and seem to have stumbled from one disaster to another most of them 'me' related unfortunately -e.g. toxic mother and family issues, me not being treated very well at work and subsequently resigning from a very stressful job.
I've been diagnosed with anxiety and depression due to the work situation but I am feeling much since I left work a few weeks ago.
Am constantly being told by DH that he does not want to be with someone depressed, that I am always negative and need to lose weight (well I have put on some weight but am only a size 12!), He now openly stares at women when we are out and says that's ok as he does not see it at home anymore! I hear from him that I just could not handle my job and that this is the reason I left. The reality is that I earned more than twice what he does managing a really difficult job whilst dealing with DD and did this for many years as a single parent. It is just demoralising.
It used to take a lot to make him angry now he becomes angry at smaller things and then sulks for days. It is the sulking which I just cannot stand, and it hangs over the house like a cloud. He can be aggressive in his shouting too.
Finally bit the bullet today, my birthday, and went to see a counsellor. He glossed over many of the issues I raised making himself sound really good. To make things worse he came out of the meeting saying 'did you see how reasonably I came across, I presented myself very well, she was staring at you all of the time and focussing on you because you are the problem'.
Just feel so frustrated and undermined by this. We have now had a massive argument - he is not talking to me because I would not stop everything right now this minute when we got back to help him with some DIY and because I wasn't happy about the things he said to the counsellor
He is now in the living room on the phone to his friend as if nothing has heppened and I'm in the bedroom feeling as if I could cry...
To be honest before all of the stressy things happened, he was such a cheery person but he has reacted negatively to all of this and turned into a horrible person.
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It's my birthday and I feel like crying - fallen out with DH after first counselling session (long, sorry)
starrystarrynights · 20/09/2012 20:52
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