Hello newbie on here (though I have been lurking (reading some great advice) a while)
A year ago DH came back from a trip abroad and was distant and when asked what was wrong siad he was not happy, hadn't been for 2 years and wanted out. There is no-one else ( I almost wish there was) I have asked 100 ties and he says no and never has been. At the time I was devastated and said I would go and take DC's to return to UK ( We moved abroad for his work 5 years ago, at this time I left a great job and family as he wanted to relocate, I was less certain but wanted us all to be together)
Anyway, we decided to give it another go and try to fix it, however over this year I was the one doing fixing while he 'checked out' and distanced himself. Further distanced himself this summer physically by announcing he was going to Asia for 8 weeks ( for 'work' ) So I considered my options, stayed and decided if after he came back things were the same I'd go. Of course they were the same so we decided to leave.
Now I am in dreadful state, he couldn't wait to tell everyone( emailed his sisters and brother before I had told my mum) and on Tuesday found out he's been to solicitor to discuss divorce proceedings. This was a shock as I thought we were separating ( not divorcing) but in his words he 'can't see the point of prolonging it'. I was really angry and told him so and that I felt he was being cold and uncaring, he is giving us a chunk of money to set up home but I am scared for the future, If I set up a place and then don't get work what next. Again he is being reasonable and helpful but this just makes me madder, like I am one of his clients!
I now have to find house/ job/ schools etc . as well as leave a country and friends I love and start all over again ( again!) Feeling overwhelmed by it all and only have 2 maybe 3 weeks to pack up house and job here.
Any advice or just a friendly word would be great. ( sorry for long post!)
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So that's that then....
raenbow · 20/09/2012 08:42
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