Its been a couple of months, i like him, he's smart, funny, kind and attractive. Which is all good obviously.
I am very fat and he loves this apparently, but its making me feel a bit...objectified?
I cant work out whether this is my issue because while i dont stress over my weight i dont want to be this size. My exes have probably found me attractive despite being fat and with him it seems to be because of it.
He has made a few comments about me losing weight, which i have been doing gradually since before we got together, and when ive challenged him he says he cant help having his preference but that of course i should do what i feel is right for me.
I dont think ive explained it ver well. I cant really put my finger on it. I suppose its basically that i cant feel comfortable with something i dont like about myself being fetishised.
Not sure what im asking really...
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Seeing someone who likes that i'm fat....so why do i feel uneasy?
PinkleWickers · 18/09/2012 13:38
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