Namechanged - help and support would be appreciated. Basically history of an affair, emotional outbursts, aggressive behaviours, swearing and shouting in front of kids but only violence towards walls :-/ Long marriage, four kids at primary and secondary. Mortgaged house with 40-50k of equity at best (ridiculous mortgage as in SE). Low income jobs and no savings.
Separation has now turned nasty and I now know I need to get legal advice which I will do tomorrow. I was hoping that we could just move forwards sensibly but that is not to be. I do not have a problem with access - he can see the kids whenever but I have said he may not have them at what is, for the time being, my house. This has enraged him and he is insisting he has the right to come here and look after the kids whenever. He is living with family and doesn't want to have the kids there- yet it is a nice big house with garden and I don't have problems with them being there.
My immediate question is for those with experience and knowledge- he keeps making excuses to come here. Do I have to let him in? It upsets me and the kids and is basically just a form of control because that's all he has. (last time he kicked over a chair after 5 mins). He is going on about money and how I have to buy him out or let him in whenever. he says he is coming here early tomorrow to get something that I've said I'll drop off, then he says it's to see kids so I then say I'll bring them round, then he says no and gets nasty.
I've had enough and want to cry.
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Bolloxshmollox · 03/09/2012 19:41
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