PIL vs. ideal home?

[msbuggywinkle]

We informally rent our house from my PIL, who are lovely but can be a bit head-in-the sand about things that require them to actually do something.

We now have the opportunity to move in to a housing co-op in November. It is our utter ideal, would fit us perfectly and would mean that we permanently stay in this city (PIL are here too) rather than moving to the country in the next five years. They would hate it if we left the city, they don't do travelling so would rarely see us as they don't have space for us to stay.

The problem is, that it is quite likely that when we tell them we are moving out, no matter how clearly we state that this is us giving them notice, they either won't believe that we really will move or will do an ostrich impression. They will then not have a tenant/put the house on the market when we move out. I am worried about what this will do to our relationship, FIL can be volatile and he would shout at us in front of the DDs.

I guess it is a WWYD really. Ideal home vs. possibility of mucking up our relationship with PIL.

[HighJumpingHissy]

You can onlyi do what you need to do. If your PIL don't rent the house out, it's their decision.

Tell them now what is what and keep repeating it.

If FIL shouts, you have another issue to deal with, whether you allow that to go on or not. Be strong, set your boundaries and do what you need to do for your family.

[MushroomSoup]

Treat your in-laws like the landlords they are. Give written notice, stick to it and move out. The rest is not your concern.