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How many men / women have you slept with?

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ElizabethX Wed 01-Aug-12 18:18:24

Assuming you can remember that is.

Today for the first time ever I counted and it is 14* / 0**.

I am 35. This is just under 1 a year since I became sexually active (started late...4th term at uni). I'm not counting youthful messing about, I mean full sex.

This doesn't seem so many to me and obv its going to depend when you became monogamous anyway. But, I have seen articles that suggest a much lower figure, eg 7 for men 4 for women.

Am I a bit of a slapper (which I would be fine with, I enjoyed it) or are all these people just lying? I think the latter, because judging by who I have spoken to 14 is much more typical than 4.

* 14 men I think
** no women I am sure

ItsSoooFluffy Mon 23-Sep-13 16:43:26

5/0. Am 24 and in a LTR for 3 years.

makemineamalibuandpineapple Sun 22-Sep-13 18:41:00


I am 30 and have had a 7 year relationship where I was faithful throughout. Just a shame my ex-h didn't see fidelity as part of marriage. He certainly added a few to his score during our relationship.

Pollydon Sun 22-Sep-13 18:32:58


Met dh aged 18, still together aged 40.
No Regrets

cantfindamnnickname Sun 22-Sep-13 18:30:56

35 ish (maybe can't really remember) men and 2 women

Some of those have been erm group activities lol

frogslegs35 Sun 22-Sep-13 18:24:30


I'm 35 and was in a LTR for agesssss, the others (exc 1 of the females) were before and after him.
Oldest was 12 years my senior and youngest was 9 years my junior smile
No regrets!

BunInMyOven93 Sun 22-Sep-13 18:03:10

23 Men. No women.

Seems pretty bad to me!!! im 20 and have been with my partber for 19 months now and expecting a baby. Lost virginity when i was 16. So between 16 and 18 i slept with 23 different guys :/. All safe, mind you! little ashamed of my number. Could be much worse!

ThePlEWhoLovedMe Sun 22-Sep-13 09:22:40

My childhood sweetheart who I was with from 13 years - 23 years old.

6 years of singledom = 3 boyfriends and maybe 8 ONS (rough guess)

Have been with current partner 12 years

fl85 Sun 22-Sep-13 07:54:15

I am 28 and reckon somewhere around 50 men, no women. Only 1 in last 5 years. Most were when I was 18/19.

LoopThePoop Sat 21-Sep-13 23:20:23

It's the weekend, people are interested..

My answer is not enough. I met DH and married relatively young.

Just him. I'm 35 and wonder a bit.
We are active and experiment a bit ourselves BUT...

FavoriteThings Sat 21-Sep-13 23:13:39

Why has this thread got resurrected at least 3 times confused
Not for a good reason I suspect.

tombliboouun Sat 21-Sep-13 23:05:25


MadameLeBean Sat 21-Sep-13 23:02:26

Funnily enough now-DP was also my first (we dated in school) which is rather sweet I think smile

MadameLeBean Sat 21-Sep-13 23:00:31

Oh I'm 27. Been with DP 3 years.

MadameLeBean Sat 21-Sep-13 22:59:38

20 ish men and about five women smile

Sindarella Sat 21-Sep-13 22:56:44

24/0 relationship/one night stands

760ish/54 workwise ( worked in the 'adult entertainment' biz for a while).

28 been in a relationship 5 years.

2rebecca Sat 21-Sep-13 22:47:34

Not sure, somewhere between 20 and 40 but I'm in my 40s and had fun as a student.
For the past 11 years it has only been 1 so I've slowed down alot.
I don't regret sleeping with a few blokes when younger.
No women, probably would have have if I'd met the right one at the right time but I fancy far fewer women.

juneybean Sat 21-Sep-13 22:42:49

^ you're not a freak!!

I'm 28


justgotquestions Sat 21-Sep-13 22:30:33

Am 28.

0/0 blush I am a freak.

Alconleigh Sat 21-Sep-13 22:19:37

Am 37. About 55 ish / 1. Only 3 in the last 8 years though, so it's safe to say I enjoyed my twenties grin

Redline Sat 21-Sep-13 18:12:20

Am a man aged 35 & (Full-Time) Father of one but as to Men/Women as per the Title Question of the thread?

Have slept with (as in full on the Works/PIV whatever you want to name it?) 7 women & No Men. I guess that? May seem on the (Rather) Low side but I often have HUGE & terrible self-confidence & endurance issues when it comes to relationships & maintaining them or even TRYING to (never mind DOING?) successfully attract members of the opposite sex FOR r'ships? When I DO manage to succeed? The results tend to be mixed but IF we last beyond a LITTLE while? We tend to last For YEARS. My last few r'ships? Have been 1 & a bit years, 6 years & 2 years if that's any guide?

Anyway? That's me...................confused biscuit

oldgrandmama Sat 21-Sep-13 17:35:38

Oh dear ... been making a list. Now blushing furiously ... but I AM 71 and had a very misspent middle age! On the other hand, I was a virgin when I first married, at just 20

CharlieB30 Sat 21-Sep-13 17:26:37

Age 30

12 - 2 long term relationships (inc the one I'm in now) and 10 flings/ one night stands.

I racked up a lot of random sex in a short period of time, after sleeping with my now Dp after a few dates I vowed to go celibate if it didn't work out. Luckily it did lol

CharlieB30 Sat 21-Sep-13 17:24:01

Age 30

12 - 2 long term relationships (inc the one I'm in now) and 10 flings

Mojavewonderer Sat 21-Sep-13 17:12:53

35 yrs old
I can't really remember them all though so I am guessing low 20's although my mother has often said she thinks its more ;) my husband has never asked thankfully.

lurkinglorna Sat 21-Sep-13 16:59:03

I reckon some of us must be "sisters" in that we've had the same conquests....hmm

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