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How many men / women have you slept with?

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ElizabethX Wed 01-Aug-12 18:18:24

Assuming you can remember that is.

Today for the first time ever I counted and it is 14* / 0**.

I am 35. This is just under 1 a year since I became sexually active (started late...4th term at uni). I'm not counting youthful messing about, I mean full sex.

This doesn't seem so many to me and obv its going to depend when you became monogamous anyway. But, I have seen articles that suggest a much lower figure, eg 7 for men 4 for women.

Am I a bit of a slapper (which I would be fine with, I enjoyed it) or are all these people just lying? I think the latter, because judging by who I have spoken to 14 is much more typical than 4.

* 14 men I think
** no women I am sure

AnyFucker Tue 14-May-13 22:53:49


It's not a zombie thread any more.

BlatantRedhead Tue 14-May-13 22:57:17

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

fay85 Wed 15-May-13 06:57:35

1 in the last 4 and a half years. Considerably more in the 7 and a half years before

Weegiemum Wed 15-May-13 07:00:13

The only man I've slept with is my husband of 18+ years.

Probably makes me a bit crazy, but that's it for us (I'm also his only).

RedlipsAndSlippers Wed 15-May-13 07:05:09

4/0 with the obvious messing around otherwise. Only two of them were worth it at all, luckily DP is one of the worth it ones smile Hopefully that's it for me, I'm 25 and have been with DP 7 and a half years.

AntoinetteCosway Wed 15-May-13 07:22:20

I spent hours making that banner...

Hullygully Wed 15-May-13 09:33:42

487 (a quiet night)

tumbletumble Wed 15-May-13 10:01:10

I'm 39 and have slept with 6 people (all men).

5 between the ages of 16 and 22 (3 boyfriends and 2 one night stands)

1 since age 23 (DH)

Lattetogo Fri 17-May-13 13:18:10


I'm 42 & been with DH since 17 which read 1/0 at the time. Yes we did experiment b4 DCs arrived. blush

cDoll Tue 16-Jul-13 00:02:46

300+ Judge all you want, I really don't care.

RaRaZ Tue 16-Jul-13 11:23:19

3/0. Till I got with DP, I'd have preferred the first number to be I hope it never goes higher. Fooled round with plenty more mind - but again I hope DP is the last!

stooshe Tue 16-Jul-13 11:58:28

I started at age seventeen. The one who took my virginity (my boyfriend) seemed to have left some behind. We split ( I didn't like the sex with him, not that I told him). Between the ages of eighteen and twenty I had five sexual partners, then met my daughter's father and had her at age twenty two. We split and I took a conscious break for about a year and then got back on the wagon until I met another partner at age thirty - thirty two. The split was amicable, so I didn't do any "soul searching and got back on the wagon again ( again, I had lots of fun). I met my recent ex at the age of forty and we were together for nearly two years and considering what he did and what he is , I think my downstairs region has shrivelled into a raisin. Thank God I got to have fun when I could. My"nature" isn't as strong as it was. Or maybe I am a bit more picky. Mind you I am going on a date on Thursday ( a "daytime" date). Hopefully this guy isn't a plonker as my garden needs watering even if I am enjoying my present status.
No women. I'd say about forty men ( without having to think about it too much). I love good nookie. It's the great leveller.

stooshe Tue 16-Jul-13 12:00:15

cDoll. It's not how many it's how you go about it !( so says one of my old timey christian relatives. I was scandalized at the time).

ushush Tue 16-Jul-13 12:21:34


16.... Am I on track?

amessageforyouYoni Tue 16-Jul-13 12:50:31

Mid thirties.

I think about 45-ish blokes. God, tried to count it up just now and got a bit confused (...and sidetracked...reminscing on youthful one-night stands with memorable guys like 'small willy man', 'enormous cock man' and 'very strange shaped dick man' grin).

3 women if we're talking full-on going for it sex...

I embrace my youthful slack ways. Twas fun and you're along time dead <cough, married, cough>

amessageforyouYoni Tue 16-Jul-13 12:51:00

* a long

OctopusPete8 Tue 16-Jul-13 13:02:11

1 , mid twenties quite a rarity for my generation.

only 1, still with them though,

yepitsme123 Sat 21-Sep-13 16:20:59

200+ female 23yrs old

lurkinglorna Sat 21-Sep-13 16:57:57


ps see you there

lurkinglorna Sat 21-Sep-13 16:59:03

I reckon some of us must be "sisters" in that we've had the same conquests....hmm

Mojavewonderer Sat 21-Sep-13 17:12:53

35 yrs old
I can't really remember them all though so I am guessing low 20's although my mother has often said she thinks its more ;) my husband has never asked thankfully.

CharlieB30 Sat 21-Sep-13 17:24:01

Age 30

12 - 2 long term relationships (inc the one I'm in now) and 10 flings

CharlieB30 Sat 21-Sep-13 17:26:37

Age 30

12 - 2 long term relationships (inc the one I'm in now) and 10 flings/ one night stands.

I racked up a lot of random sex in a short period of time, after sleeping with my now Dp after a few dates I vowed to go celibate if it didn't work out. Luckily it did lol

oldgrandmama Sat 21-Sep-13 17:35:38

Oh dear ... been making a list. Now blushing furiously ... but I AM 71 and had a very misspent middle age! On the other hand, I was a virgin when I first married, at just 20

Redline Sat 21-Sep-13 18:12:20

Am a man aged 35 & (Full-Time) Father of one but as to Men/Women as per the Title Question of the thread?

Have slept with (as in full on the Works/PIV whatever you want to name it?) 7 women & No Men. I guess that? May seem on the (Rather) Low side but I often have HUGE & terrible self-confidence & endurance issues when it comes to relationships & maintaining them or even TRYING to (never mind DOING?) successfully attract members of the opposite sex FOR r'ships? When I DO manage to succeed? The results tend to be mixed but IF we last beyond a LITTLE while? We tend to last For YEARS. My last few r'ships? Have been 1 & a bit years, 6 years & 2 years if that's any guide?

Anyway? That's me...................confused biscuit

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