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How many men / women have you slept with?

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ElizabethX Wed 01-Aug-12 18:18:24

Assuming you can remember that is.

Today for the first time ever I counted and it is 14* / 0**.

I am 35. This is just under 1 a year since I became sexually active (started late...4th term at uni). I'm not counting youthful messing about, I mean full sex.

This doesn't seem so many to me and obv its going to depend when you became monogamous anyway. But, I have seen articles that suggest a much lower figure, eg 7 for men 4 for women.

Am I a bit of a slapper (which I would be fine with, I enjoyed it) or are all these people just lying? I think the latter, because judging by who I have spoken to 14 is much more typical than 4.

* 14 men I think
** no women I am sure

Leverette Wed 01-Aug-12 18:21:06

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ninah Wed 01-Aug-12 18:22:47

I don't do notches but 4 seems peculiarly low

Houseofplain Wed 01-Aug-12 18:23:19

Oh erm... I don't remember blush 15 ish I think then one.

I genuinely can't remember. I enjoyed my single times smile

LurkingAndLearningLovesCats Wed 01-Aug-12 18:23:37

Not enough. grin

ninah Wed 01-Aug-12 18:24:44

how would you define 'full sex' btw? particularly since you are asking about both genders

brighthair Wed 01-Aug-12 18:24:59

28 years old


propercharlie Wed 01-Aug-12 18:26:04


Aged 27, married at 24.

puds11 Wed 01-Aug-12 18:27:54

16ish/maybe a half?
Im 24, have been in a relationship for 4 years.

ElizabethX Wed 01-Aug-12 18:28:32

@ houseofplain

exactly, it never occurred to me to count either and when I tried to remember I kept forgetting the odd one and coming up with different answers.

do you mean 15 / 1?

@ Leverette

OK so if you started at 20 and it was 1 a year and just 1 in your 11 year LTR, you'd be on 9. You say 8, so you're almost exactly as "prolific" as me.

I reckon 1 a year is typical.

moogalicious Wed 01-Aug-12 18:29:25


I'm in my 40's and have been with DH since I was 26 blush

Doha Wed 01-Aug-12 18:29:45

1/0 blush

NikitasSidekick Wed 01-Aug-12 18:30:25


I'm 31 blush

utahforever Wed 01-Aug-12 18:32:12


ElizabethX Wed 01-Aug-12 18:33:38

@ ninah

good question, well I was excluding giving hand jobs and getting them, which is as far as I went in my youth. After that it was full on intercourse - I accept there's a grey area here but I don't think I've been in it myself...

ninah Wed 01-Aug-12 18:35:40

still plenty to look forward to then grin
didn't you have a thread about meeting a lovely neighbour? is that all still going well?

OwlLady Wed 01-Aug-12 18:35:40

at some point someone is going to post


so it may as well be me <sigh>

Houseofplain Wed 01-Aug-12 18:35:45

Yes 15/1ish if you exclude other naughties...although when I recount I come up with diff numbers so don't know blush

JaceyBee Wed 01-Aug-12 18:35:58


Am 33 and was in a monogamous relationship between the ages of 21 and 32. Was v busy before that though! grin There may be a few in there which probably shouldn't have been but overall je ne regrette rien. I always feel a bit sorry for women who have only ever slept with their dh (sorry if that sounds patronising, just think variety is the spice of life!)

JodieHarsh Wed 01-Aug-12 18:39:12


And I ain't gonna blush about it either, so there.

HecateHarshPants Wed 01-Aug-12 18:41:01

No idea.

That's a bit disturbing hmm


JUbilympiX Wed 01-Aug-12 18:42:23

No idea, and don't care. Does it matter to you how many you've had?

solidgoldbrass Wed 01-Aug-12 18:43:31

Over 100, but I should probably point out that I am 47 and that's spread over 30 years. Still, I am proud of my Good Score. (I am not sure of the exact amount and it does depend on whether you count group sex as 1 (occasion) or 2/3/4 (participants apart from me.)

OwlLady Wed 01-Aug-12 18:44:46

yes solidgoldbrass, in those circumstances you have to apply the ratio x area x circumference equation and then times it by Y and divide by M

<makes it up as she goes along>

solidgoldbrass Wed 01-Aug-12 18:45:29

Oh yes, that's a point, are you counting it in terms of: PIV only? Do you include it if neither of you had an orgasm but you had his winky in your woowoo for a couple of seconds? Do handjobs or blowjobs count?

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