my sil and i were close for years.
she and db are going through a messy divorce.
she is refusing to allow their 3 children to attend family gatherings that don't fall on his 'access' days (every other weekend). this access has been dictated by her alone. he used to have them weds nights too but she suddenly decided he wasnt allowed to have them midweek any more.
our other brother is marrying in august and they are bridesmaids.... it got to the point of having to threaten legal action before she allowed them to attend.
now their only surviving grandfather is visiting form overseas at 2 days' notice as a surprise for my 40th (am annoyed with my dad for not giving us notice but he didnt think through the consequences for my db). she has refused to let them see him as she says they have plans, and it not dbs' 'weekend'. you might say fair enough, but how sad that sil sees no value in altering plans to accommodate a rare overseas relative.
she also will allow him to have them only for 10 days over the summer, split into 2x 5 days so he cant do a proper holiday with them.
i dont understand why she hates us all so much. we used to regularly go on holidays etc together and i've really tried to be impartial. why cant she see that keeping the dc away from our side of the family out of spite, is not in the dc's interest. she admitted in a recent email to Db that money was his 'power base' but the dc our her 'power base'. i just want to weep its so awful and hurtful.
when he sees them only 2 days out of 14 it makes it impossible to get to see our side of the family. they have a gran and a great gran who see them about 1% of the time that her own family get to see them. not to metion my poor db who misses them like mad.
i really know the dc and db are the main issue but the extended family get hurt too and i needed to vent . any advice?
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ex SIL preventing nieces from attending special family events
OneArmedBandit · 16/07/2012 12:52
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