not sure if i should even be on this site but really need someone to talk to...my partner of 8 years is leaving to take a job abroad for 2 years...we have no children together although i have children of my own..they have all left home apart from the youngest who is 17. neither of us have ever been married and started living together within months of meeting.
he is taking a job in the most remotest place i can think of...the island of st helena..its a 9 hour flight on an RAF plane then another 2 days on an RAF boat to even get there...he leaves in 4 weeks
he has said i should go with him...but i also have 5 small grandchildren all aged under 4...my kids live 5 minutes away from us.
i cant leave my family behind...my children and grandchildren are my world and i couldnt imagine not being able to hold any one of them even for a day.
when he leaves i wont see him for a whole year as he can only take 30 days leave from the island at the end of july next year..
he says he will still pay the household bills from his end...and talks as though he will be coming home.
i know im probably sounding silly...but my heart is breaking at the thought of him leaving..he is my soul mate,my hope for the future..
i cant begin to imagine how i will live my life without him...im counting the days until he leaves..i feel like my world has come to an end..i have an ache in my heart that wont go away, i cant stop crying, i go to bed with a broken heart and wake up feeling the same way...i know it sounds crazy and probably not the right thing to say...but to me it seems like im just waiting for him to die...he says all these things about how hes doing it for us and how he will be back and i so desperately want to believe him but my mind wont let me (been hurt so bad in the past)
i have no friends to lean on for support and my children just dont seem to understand the pain im feeling...
please please please tell me how i can survive this
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chloe2727 · 12/07/2012 20:49
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