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Getting back to being a bit naughty

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kellyNo7 · 07/07/2012 14:59

Sorry, this isn't about our cheeky DS!

The post is blunt and to the point. Sorry.

I have been about on here for a bit but changed my name....here goes

Married, two children, v v v happy.
BC hubby (and when we were engaged) liked me to be a bit naughty. So I had the odd FB, told him about it, or a few holiday flings. It was fun but we lost interest after starting to think about children...obviously

Now our family is complete, well for the time being, he has mentioned that he might like me to have a little bit of fun. I have to say I am tempted, I would love a bit of SWOI away from home with hubbies blessing.

But....

Has anyone tried this post kids.
I know a few friends who had "open" relationships before kids and it was fine but none of my yummy mummy crowd do, or none that I can ask. I know a couple have had affairs or one night stands but that is different.

So....

Over to the floor.
Anyone tried?

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doggiemumma · 07/07/2012 15:11

BC? SWOI? FB? The mind boggles - can't you be nauhty WITH your DH?

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kellyNo7 · 07/07/2012 15:13

Sorry....

Before children
Shagging without intent (I only found out about that one today, I thought it was more polite!)
F*buddy

Yes, we could.
But we enjoyed this in the past.

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Feckbox · 07/07/2012 15:16

I can't take this seriously on so many levels.
Where to start?
Calling your husband hubby Confused

Where exactly does one find men one fancies who are up for this arrangement who are either single or whose partners don't mind?

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numbertaker · 07/07/2012 15:17

Sorry but I think your hubby has no morals.

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iklboo · 07/07/2012 15:17

If he mentioned he would like you to 'have a bit of fun' - is there any chance he's already at it? And encouraging you to do it again so there's no moral high ground (as it were).

If I've got the wrong end of stick I sincerely apologise. This isn't my cup of tea so I have no frame of reference.

Wow. Really mixed my metaphors there, didn't I? Blush

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kellyNo7 · 07/07/2012 15:17

Actually hubby (which I think is a nice name) suggested it back in the day.

He is extremely fanciable.

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Lueji · 07/07/2012 15:18

Swoi?

What happens?
You fall by accident into position?

Sorry.

Tbh, AC there was hardly any time to do H let alone others. But if he's willing to babysit, whatever rocks your boat.

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Feckbox · 07/07/2012 15:18

" we lost interest after starting to think about children....obviously "
Sorry it's not obvious to me.
Can you elaborate?

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Lueji · 07/07/2012 15:19

Feckbox, you have to ask?
:o

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Feckbox · 07/07/2012 15:20

If it worked before why would it not work after kids ?

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kellyNo7 · 07/07/2012 15:20

iklboo, I know what you are getting at
No, I don't think so
It started out one holiday after some wine, sun, skinny dipping and a very secluded beach. It is actually a very romantic, loving and sexy side to our relationship and I think we both miss it more than we admit. I know it is probably naive to say it but he is just not that type.

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kellyNo7 · 07/07/2012 15:20

Feckbox
Erm....sperm.

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Lueji · 07/07/2012 15:21

I meant earlier question, but also latest.

Men usually want to make sure of paternity.

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Feckbox · 07/07/2012 15:23

Lueji unless
Op means the time/ energy factor , I don't get it.
Actually I don't got it at all and will now crawl back into my relatively uncomplicated mundane village hole where I rarely even shag my own husband never mind anyone else's

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Feckbox · 07/07/2012 15:23

Condoms!!!!!

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oikopolis · 07/07/2012 15:24

god this is weird

i guess the answer is, if you both want to do something, then do it. who cares what the other "yummy mummies" [shudder] think of it?

personally i will always say ewwwwwww to this sort of thing, but if you like it, more power to you.

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kellyNo7 · 07/07/2012 15:25

I suppose that has never cropped up
Not the paternity issue, I never had any need to lie to him.
There was nearly 18 months separating the two key events.

I know what you mean about how we started
But we were not actually that serious about each other at the start
I was seeing someone else at the time and one day mentioned that I had already made love that morning to my boyfriend
I was a bit surprised how sexy he found it
Shortly afterwards we went on that holiday
It was never really about giving him the opportunity

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Feckbox · 07/07/2012 15:27

Did you really not use condoms with the other bloke (s) ?

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Feckbox · 07/07/2012 15:30

So is this it , you shagged other blokes at the start up of relationship with husband before you settled down with him. This turned him on.

You settled down with him, had kids, ditched other blokes.

Now husband is suggesting you find other lovers , if you want, and this we turn him on?

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Feckbox · 07/07/2012 15:30

Would

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doggiemumma · 07/07/2012 15:31

you sound a bit immature really

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kellyNo7 · 07/07/2012 15:32

Fecbox

Less of the blokes and perhaps the occasional bloke but that is more or less it

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gingerchick · 07/07/2012 15:34

Boak !

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yellowraincoat · 07/07/2012 15:37

Besides your fairly bonkers OP (hubby! naughty! acronyms I don't understand! (AIDU)) I don't see why, if you're both into it, you can't.

I've been to sex clubs with my partner, he's seen me with people I've seen him with people and it turns us both on. So why the hell not.

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Feckbox · 07/07/2012 15:38

Ok got it now, thanks.
What do YOU want to do?

My question still stands. In the past you were essentially a single woman having flings, some of which overlapped. I can relate to that . Happy memories actually .
But now you are married with children. It's one thing for you and your husband to be cool about you having other lovers, but I am curious as to who These men might be. IF there really are men in your social circle that you fancy who are single or have partners who don't mind, and you want more lovers , hey ho, who are we to judge.

Do report back, will you ?

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