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Getting back to being a bit naughty

(51 Posts)
kellyNo7 Sat 07-Jul-12 14:59:48

Sorry, this isn't about our cheeky DS!

The post is blunt and to the point. Sorry.

I have been about on here for a bit but changed my goes

Married, two children, v v v happy.
BC hubby (and when we were engaged) liked me to be a bit naughty. So I had the odd FB, told him about it, or a few holiday flings. It was fun but we lost interest after starting to think about children...obviously

Now our family is complete, well for the time being, he has mentioned that he might like me to have a little bit of fun. I have to say I am tempted, I would love a bit of SWOI away from home with hubbies blessing.


Has anyone tried this post kids.
I know a few friends who had "open" relationships before kids and it was fine but none of my yummy mummy crowd do, or none that I can ask. I know a couple have had affairs or one night stands but that is different.


Over to the floor.
Anyone tried?

doggiemumma Sat 07-Jul-12 15:11:20

BC? SWOI? FB? The mind boggles - can't you be nauhty WITH your DH?

kellyNo7 Sat 07-Jul-12 15:13:01


Before children
Shagging without intent (I only found out about that one today, I thought it was more polite!)

Yes, we could.
But we enjoyed this in the past.

Feckbox Sat 07-Jul-12 15:16:36

I can't take this seriously on so many levels.
Where to start?
Calling your husband hubby confused

Where exactly does one find men one fancies who are up for this arrangement who are either single or whose partners don't mind?

numbertaker Sat 07-Jul-12 15:17:08

Sorry but I think your hubby has no morals.

iklboo Sat 07-Jul-12 15:17:31

If he mentioned he would like you to 'have a bit of fun' - is there any chance he's already at it? And encouraging you to do it again so there's no moral high ground (as it were).

If I've got the wrong end of stick I sincerely apologise. This isn't my cup of tea so I have no frame of reference.

Wow. Really mixed my metaphors there, didn't I? blush

kellyNo7 Sat 07-Jul-12 15:17:51

Actually hubby (which I think is a nice name) suggested it back in the day.

He is extremely fanciable.

Lueji Sat 07-Jul-12 15:18:11


What happens?
You fall by accident into position?


Tbh, AC there was hardly any time to do H let alone others. But if he's willing to babysit, whatever rocks your boat.

Feckbox Sat 07-Jul-12 15:18:22

" we lost interest after starting to think about children....obviously "
Sorry it's not obvious to me.
Can you elaborate?

Lueji Sat 07-Jul-12 15:19:24

Feckbox, you have to ask?

Feckbox Sat 07-Jul-12 15:20:14

If it worked before why would it not work after kids ?

kellyNo7 Sat 07-Jul-12 15:20:15

iklboo, I know what you are getting at
No, I don't think so
It started out one holiday after some wine, sun, skinny dipping and a very secluded beach. It is actually a very romantic, loving and sexy side to our relationship and I think we both miss it more than we admit. I know it is probably naive to say it but he is just not that type.

kellyNo7 Sat 07-Jul-12 15:20:46


Lueji Sat 07-Jul-12 15:21:24

I meant earlier question, but also latest.

Men usually want to make sure of paternity.

Feckbox Sat 07-Jul-12 15:23:10

Lueji unless
Op means the time/ energy factor , I don't get it.
Actually I don't got it at all and will now crawl back into my relatively uncomplicated mundane village hole where I rarely even shag my own husband never mind anyone else's

Feckbox Sat 07-Jul-12 15:23:37


oikopolis Sat 07-Jul-12 15:24:46

god this is weird

i guess the answer is, if you both want to do something, then do it. who cares what the other "yummy mummies" [shudder] think of it?

personally i will always say ewwwwwww to this sort of thing, but if you like it, more power to you.

kellyNo7 Sat 07-Jul-12 15:25:34

I suppose that has never cropped up
Not the paternity issue, I never had any need to lie to him.
There was nearly 18 months separating the two key events.

I know what you mean about how we started
But we were not actually that serious about each other at the start
I was seeing someone else at the time and one day mentioned that I had already made love that morning to my boyfriend
I was a bit surprised how sexy he found it
Shortly afterwards we went on that holiday
It was never really about giving him the opportunity

Feckbox Sat 07-Jul-12 15:27:35

Did you really not use condoms with the other bloke (s) ?

Feckbox Sat 07-Jul-12 15:30:16

So is this it , you shagged other blokes at the start up of relationship with husband before you settled down with him. This turned him on.

You settled down with him, had kids, ditched other blokes.

Now husband is suggesting you find other lovers , if you want, and this we turn him on?

Feckbox Sat 07-Jul-12 15:30:26


doggiemumma Sat 07-Jul-12 15:31:19

you sound a bit immature really

kellyNo7 Sat 07-Jul-12 15:32:50


Less of the blokes and perhaps the occasional bloke but that is more or less it

gingerchick Sat 07-Jul-12 15:34:09

Boak !

yellowraincoat Sat 07-Jul-12 15:37:01

Besides your fairly bonkers OP (hubby! naughty! acronyms I don't understand! (AIDU)) I don't see why, if you're both into it, you can't.

I've been to sex clubs with my partner, he's seen me with people I've seen him with people and it turns us both on. So why the hell not.

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