I need to leave my husband. Please help me.

[anewbeginning2012]

Hi

I am not a mum. (don't hate me for posting here)

I need to leave my husband. He makes me do things and bullies me. I have no bank account, no job, and no friends.

I can get some money if I take his cards (for shopping). How much do I need?

also to massively complicate things I have a most beloved dog, that comes with me (i hope)

I stopped wearing my wedding ring this week and i am scared that things will escalate, he said rather pointedly 'so there's nothing I can say to make you put your ring back on?'

I am so scared. please help me.

[AnyoneForTennis]

There is help available. Don't worry

Women's aid can help.... Could you ring them?

[anewbeginning2012]

i have only 90 mins before he gets back from work to talk.

[anewbeginning2012]

will he know that I have rung them?

[AnyoneForTennis]

You sound scared of him. Do you have a mobile? If so, keep it with you

Any family/friends nearby?

[AnyoneForTennis]

Log out of here when done. Clear history. Don't think WA number shows on phone bill... Do the 141 thing

When do you want to leave?

[anewbeginning2012]

i have no one. the only person that knows is my OU tutor.
no family, no friends. I barely leave the house.

[fallingandlaughing]

You don't need anything.

If you are scared don't put yourself at risk for money or anything else. Call Women's Aid 0808 2000 247. They will help and understand.

Don't give him any reason to think you are going and remember to delete your broswing history or use inprivate browsing for these messages.

I like your username. Sounds like you are ready for a new beginning. Good Luck.

[tribpot]

Here's the guide to staying safe online and here are their helpline FAQs. The number won't appear on a BT bill but might if you have your home phone with someone else.

Helpline FAQs - Freephone 24 Hour National Domestic Violence Helpline, 0808 2000 247

[anewbeginning2012]

yes i will clear history. already have secret email address. he has been asking to go on my netbook recently. i was a bit worried that he put something on there.

[mummytime]

Tell Women's aid about the dog, there are people who will foster it temporarily for you while you get away.

[fallingandlaughing]

he might have out a keylogger or something on there, so be careful

[anewbeginning2012]

should I put my ring back on? so he thinks that everything is ok?

[AnyoneForTennis]

Keep hold of that ring...... You can use it later, pawn for a few quid.

[fallingandlaughing]

you can judge it best re the ring. It might be a good idea? Try to talk to Women's AId if you can.

[AnyoneForTennis]

What do you want to do?

Go now? Next week?
Leave the area?

Priority is safety, so call women's aid.

[anewbeginning2012]

Okay. Thank you so much. I am reading everything. He left his credit card, I feel like i should take out the max, and hide it. will i get arrested?

[anewbeginning2012]

i ahve to leave the area, out of London.

[tribpot]

If you mean hide it so you have it for leaving later, it will show up on his card pretty quickly and be charged interest from right now, so it might even block the card and he will realise something is up. To be honest, I would take it when you are ready to leave and max it out before he realises you've gone.

[MistyRocks]

womens aid

ring them

keep us posted if you can xxxxxx

[AnyoneForTennis]

You will need a few important documents, the rest can be replaced. Doubt he could fo much about the money if you have a card for your use. If it's in his sole name then be wary

[anewbeginning2012]

okay. wont get cash straight away. I think i need to stay at least a couple of nights to get everything sorted, even though i feel like i might die. this is my faullt.

[Bossybritches22]

If you have a passport get it into your bag,its a valuable source of ID.

[anewbeginning2012]

everything is in his sole name. debit/credit/bills/mortgage.

[JumpingThroughHoops]

Have you got any family that can help you?
Any friend/s at all where you can hide out for a while?

[PissyDust]

I left the same day I called WA, they met me at an arranged place and took me to a refuge.

I took my passport, birth & marriage certificate and a small bag of clothes.

You can do it, do you want to go now?