Have a lovely husband. Really, a lovely man. Everything I suck at, he's great at, and vice versa - we should have the happiest marriage because we complement each other perfectly...
...only, he's sooooo Aspie it's astonishing - and I am, well, the opposite.
It's all come to a head (after ten years and three kids) and I started looking into separating, the lack of affection and refusal to compromise has worn me down, and I gave up trying. But, by Jove, that did the trick!!!
So, now, he's actually listened to me, to what I need and how I'd like it if we were a team. We sat and talked for an hour, instead of him going and buying compost, which is what he wanted to do. Seriously, that's a first! He said he loves me, that he wants me and he will do anything to sort it out - he's genuinely not realised how unhappy I have been. Which is remarkable symptomatic.
I persuaded him to take the AQ test - he scored 37, anything above 32 suggests aspie tendancies. Average score is 16. He challenged me to take the same test - my test result is 4.
So, he's one end of the spectrum, and I am the other. He says that is a disorder just like aspergers, only sregrepsa...
It'd be bloody marvellous if there is a "label" for being opposite of aspie, he'd really understand that!
Anyone heard of anything as bonkers like being TOO empathetic?
Am chuffed to bits, I really love the eejit man.
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Aspergers Hubbies - is there an opposite condition?
mybabyweightiseightyearsold · 19/05/2012 13:06
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