Married for 5years been together for 9years. I think I am finally done. We have no relationship, no laughs, no sex. We went to relate lst year, counsellor suggested DH had aspergers, DH was open to this, we both felt it made a lot of sense. But since then, nothing has changed. I will try and list what i consider the main flaws
- he is short tempered with the DC ~(2 between us and 1 from my previous relationship)
- no plans no discussions for the future. Every year I say to him that we need to budget throu;ghout the year for christmas birthday car maintenance etc and he agrees but then that is it.
No desire to to do anything or go anywhere or improve the house (no matter how cheaply)
we don't have joint finances, i'm a sahm so not much money coming in (DS1 dad died last year so no maintenance anymore) DH will give me any money I ask for, but I have to ask for it.
little conversation, and what conversation/discussion we do have, he never* asks me my thoughts or opinions, eg what do you think? isn't that awful/interesting?
- I am bored with my life and am drinking too much and putting on too much weight. It is a concern to me yet he won't help me address it. it is like he has no standards and doesn't care as long as the status quo continues.
- I feel trapped, this is his house, mortgage in his name, I have nothing.
on the plus side (because I want to be fair~) he adores me and the DC, would support me in anything (as long as I was the one initiating anything) if I told him to do XYZ he would, but I want him to want to do it.
God I sound like a bitch don't I?