I have a 22 year old daughter. I'm 39 years old. She is a recent graduate and lives in a flatshare with friends. She visits me about once every 6 weeks and she has recently complained to her father (who I'm no longer in a relationship with) that I don't give her "spending money" when she comes to visit. Apparently she expects me to give her £20 or £30 at the end of our time together and she is angry that I am not doing this.
When she visits I always take her out for dinner, lunch etc.
Is it the norm to give a person of that age spending money each time?
Secondly, my daughter frequently complains that she finds my appearance and my social life "inappropriate". She is referring to the fact that I still make an effort with my appearance, wear lipstick etc and also that I go to the gym, enjoy a social life with my friends etc. The look on her face the other day and the comments she made, when she saw me re-applying my lipstick was quite astounding. She constantly has little digs at me.
Is it really so unusual for a 39 year old woman to still keep up her appearance? Could this have anything to do with the fact that my daughter has chosen not to take care of her appearance and doesn't attend to personal hygiene, is obese etc? (Yes I have tried to gently coax her into taking more care of herself but she gets very defensive about it.)
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are 22 year old daughter's expectations realistic/fair?
PollySE12 · 02/04/2012 12:34
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