Is this normal? We got the chance to air some issues but not to learn now to deal with them iyswim, so I feel like we have opened a can of worms without having the tools for dealing with any of our feelings. H has retreated into his usual total silence and ostracism of me whereas he had spent the week up to the counselling appointment (which was the very first appointment where they gather information about you) being civil. I feel manipulated. It is as if he thought I would walk into the appointment and go, oh no, everything's fine...
I asked him if he wanted a cup of tea today and he said "leave it". I walked into the kitchen and apparently, when ds asked him "leave what?", he said "being stupid". Have butterflies in my stomach. We are now on the waiting list for a regular counsellor now. Don't know how long that will take or if h will eventually go with me, have a feeling he won't (though having said (during the appointment) that he didn't think it would help, he then at the end seemed to agree he would go), but don't know how on earth I am going to cope with the intervening weeks, or if the counselling will help us at all .
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H and I went for counselling for the first time yesterday, and everything feels 100 times worse
feelokaboutit · 01/04/2012 19:45
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