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Am I being selfish?

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Mum2Fergus · 19/03/2012 08:17

DP and I have nearly 3 yo DS. DP works part time and is at home with DS one day a week. I work fulltime but compressed into 4 days. On my day off I put DS into nursery (so he's there 4 days per week). I pay for one day and the remaining 3 days come out of joint budget. Now I say 'my day off' but on that day I clean, wash, shop and cook for the week (Id like to add that he has 4-5 hours to himself every Sat golfing). When he comes home and asks how my 'day off' has been you'd think Id been lying about scratching myself!!

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pinkyredrose · 19/03/2012 08:23

Next day off do things you want to do eg. go shopping or to the cinema, meet a mate or go to the park. When he asks how your day off was you can tell him what a wonderful time you had.

If he asks about clean shirts or dinner point him in the direction of the kitchen.

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Winkly · 19/03/2012 09:55

Why do you do all that yourself? What does he do around the house?

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Starwisher · 19/03/2012 10:24

Are you sure he is not just asking to be nice rather than inflammatory?

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DinahMoHum · 19/03/2012 10:27

im assuming he just means day off work, rather than anything judgemental about it? No?
I guess you know what hes likely to mean by it more than anyone else, but its still a day off isnt it. Noone whos a parent has a REAL day off as in not having anything to do.

Does he not do housework too?

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