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Why men like stockings and suspenders?

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MsBakingCakes Sun 11-Mar-12 23:39:25

Had a chat with DP last night and he cannot explain why men like women in stockings and suspenders. I do not know the answer so I thought that here in mumsnet someone would come and helps us discover why.

He is not sure either but thinks it is sexy but he does not know why.

Anyone out there to help us please?

pluckingupcourage Mon 12-Mar-12 01:56:38


gilliegin Mon 12-Mar-12 06:41:31

BF has told me on many occasions that they are sexy because:
there is something old fashioned and kind of like this prim and proper lady but something else lurking under the surface.
Also that it is the fact he as 'access' and I can keep them on.
Then there is the lace part (all mine are lace) because there are gaps in lace there is the peeking part of that.
As it is the line going up my leg (if seamed) - leading his eye upwards, like a goody trail
and it is the feeling of them and then the sudden hit of skin

He also claims that he can tell when I am wearing them because I carry myself differently. (Which I can see) and that, that is sexy in itself

Taghain Mon 12-Mar-12 10:28:26

I'm a bloke and I don't find them particularly sexy at all, they're rather tacky if worn with a sus belt. Hold-ups are fine, I can see the ease of wearing them as opposed to tights.
Eenerally, I find that exotic lingerie is a turn-off not a turn-on; it shows that the woman has to try to be sexy, and has less natural allure IYSWIM. The same goes for lots of make-up.

DinahMoHum Mon 12-Mar-12 10:47:14

i dont think "men" do, I think some men do and some women do. Probably all sorts of different reasons people like the look of different sorts of clothes on their sexual partner

TeiTetua Mon 12-Mar-12 13:20:10

Something I read years ago that sounded exactly right was "What makes something erotic is when it's concealed and revealed at the same time." I think that's the point with stockings--there is coverage, but it ends just as the erogenous zone gets near. Whereas tights are no fun, because they cover all the way up. And knee-high stockings that some women wear with longer skirts aren't alluring either, because they don't cover enough.

Another thing I heard was "Why do men think stockings and suspenders are so wonderful? It's because they combine sex and gadgets."

MMQC Mon 12-Mar-12 13:46:33

My husband claims they give the bum a better shape under a dress than tights!

WaitingForMe Mon 12-Mar-12 13:53:28

"Why do men think stockings and suspenders are so wonderful? It's because they combine sex and gadgets."

I'm sending that to my husband grin

Mordred Mon 12-Mar-12 13:58:23

I'm a bloke and for me it's definitely the 'framing effect, plus the contrasts between skin/hair colour and the stockings. I much prefer dark-haired women, so I love white stockings more than black. That contrast of dark furry triangle framed by white is gorgeous (no shaved bits for me, thanks very much).

Ahem. I think I'll go and have a little lie down now smile

AThingInYourLife Mon 12-Mar-12 14:10:55

I have always presumed it had something to do with the special effort that (nowadays) goes into putting them on for a bloke.

DH doesn't get them at all.

NickL Mon 12-Mar-12 14:24:54

Apparently there is a scientific explanation. It's all to do with the "Chuckle Line" at the top of the stockings: get past there and you're laughing.

SimpleDad Mon 12-Mar-12 16:33:35

LMFAO @ Chuckle Line.

Must say they do nothing for me. Surely they have been superceded by the thong now?


Just me then blush

OxonDad Mon 12-Mar-12 16:40:03

HotDAMNlifeisgood - you sound a riot.... So, the skimpy pants my partner buys me are what exactly - shorthand for masculinity - i.e. compliance with norms of men as sex objects for women?

KnitterNotTwitter Mon 12-Mar-12 16:43:48

DH isn't into any sort of fancy underwear (on me!) preferring the present to the wrapping paper IYSWAM...

One question I've always had is whether you wear your pants under or over the suspender belt.... pictures of people wearing a suspender belt always show the pants under but surely that actually restricts access (for shagging or more practical activiites like a trip to the loo).... Before I realised I was wasting my time I used to wear the pants over the stockings but always with a slight suspicion I was doing it wrong....

Warlock Mon 12-Mar-12 16:46:24

Definitely over, and yes it is the texture contrast and the framing and the access and the fact that the woman has probably worn them for her man.

BelleDameSansMerci Mon 12-Mar-12 16:47:19

Skimpy pants? <shudders> <not in a good way>

KnitterNotTwitter Mon 12-Mar-12 17:40:49

Thanks Warlock smile

Heleninahandcart Mon 12-Mar-12 19:21:15

Let me reverse this. Has anyone, ever felt American Tan tights are sexy?


AnyFucker Mon 12-Mar-12 19:23:35

Helen, I am sure there is a niche website somewhere for American Tan tights smile

Heleninahandcart Mon 12-Mar-12 19:25:45

Arf at AF grin

Toadinthehole Tue 13-Mar-12 08:59:49

I remember as a 13-year old boy, seeing a picture of a woman wearing stockings and suspenders and thinking "wow-wa-wow-bow-wow". I think it's leg decoration for me.

By contrast I think thongs are horrid. Anal floss? No thanks.

DustyDen Tue 13-Mar-12 11:09:58

I think stockings and suspenders are sexy and naughty because they reveal more intimate flesh at the top of the thigh. [dreamy] It's like a tease rather than a full flash, y'know? I like wearing them and seeing them on other women. My partner's not really bothered by them, though, so I don't wear them any more. smile

OxonDad Tue 13-Mar-12 11:47:21

grin @ BelleDameSansMerci. Well, not that skimpy.......

BelleDameSansMerci Tue 13-Mar-12 12:06:49


Sanjeev Tue 13-Mar-12 12:46:13

They don't do much for me. Far too fussy. Simple undies are much sexier.

Tight are the devil's own invention though.

Oh and OxonDad, you will get used to that ultra-feminist bullshit if you hang around long enough (the patriarchy catch-all I mean, not your satin skiddys). Just laugh it off grin

oldraver Tue 13-Mar-12 17:00:03

Well a well stocking leg just feels so nice.... and my BF looks so blummin good in them

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