oh mouse,big hugs
I tried to post a reply on the old thread but it vamoused
sarah I was trying to say this.I am fascinated by what makes a person hit rock bottom and change things.
My ex husband was an alcoholic,drank vast quantities of super strong beer/cider/whisky/cheap vodka and then decided cannabis was good too.I divorced him as I did not want to live like that with the constant lies,money going missing to buy more booze and the children not being taken care of whilst I was at work.....did this make him hit rock bottom,NO
My 2 eldest ds' (23,20) his sons disowned him as they no longer wanted to visit him as he was vile and they could not cope with it as young children.(courts allowed him access despite evidence from the police he had an alcohol problem,I still wonder to this day if it was because he was not white and they did not want to offend,I will never know).............did this make him hit rock bottom,NO
He had another son (so my ds' half brother) and as he was so pissed all the time he failed to notice that the mothers new boyfriend was abusing his baby son,he is now blind in one eye due to an incident with a cigarette.Social services took the baby into care,they knocked on my door and said my ex had applied for custody and would I consider him a fit parent as I had been married to him and had children with him,I of course said no,he has a drink problem,he lost and the baby HIS SON,his other sons' half brother was permenantly adopted in secret,his whereabouts unknown until he decides when he is older who he wants to see...............did he hit rock bottom,NO
What makes someone decide that enough is enough,why did I decide to try and turn things around before it got any further and others either can't/won't/don't know how.I love physchology,studied a bit with the OU.
I only ask this as my ds 20 also has the addictive genes that myself and his father have and he at 15 had major cannabis habit that he had to be helped through and it makes me wonder how some can sail through life seemingly without a care in the world and others seek refuge in addictive substances and then some recover and some do not
Anyone think I have too much time on my hands today ?