I just realised that I really like and fancy my dentist of many, many years. I don't see him often, once a year usually. In Last two weeks I saw him twice for check-up and then some work. I'm a nervous wreck with dental stuff, and I was just struck how gentle and nice he was. I started thnking that I'd like his touch generally 
. I think there is a bit of attraction from him, he looked at my body couple of times but also we make each other laugh. He used to be married and he generally never seriously registered on my radar as I was in other relationships, even though there was always a bit of rapoprt and I liked him, he's youngish, 40s, and used to look nice but this year he looks very rundown and thin, which is not putting me off, the opposite! He's also a small guy and I usually go for tall (I'm tall). I find myself thinking about him a lot, as so many men I've been with in the past lacked this sensitivity. Suddenly it's not about looks or social confidence, I just like his personal qualities and that makes me attracted rather than obvious outward sexiness!
How do I approach it? I don't have his email address and it's not on their site. He's very busy and a partner in practice. I want to find out whether he's separated or divorced. There are no photos of the wife anymore, but I need to know for sure. I don't know either whether he'd be interested but would want to take a chance.
Has anyone got examples of this working for you, or for a friend?
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attracted to my dentist, what do I do? try not to laugh..!
hisgentletouch · 20/02/2012 21:13
argh! trauma bonding! 
i don't know - ask? are you married? you could just be making chit chat as you do so if he says yes it doesn't have to be awkward. if he says no i guess if you're brave you could ask him if he'd fancy meeting for a coffee sometime or something.
i really wouldn't be that surprised if he lost his appeal out of role though.
nothing ventured?
AKiss - I assume you are a woman? and what if they did meet your standards ? did anyone ask you out? how are dentists weird, do they talk on the subject day and night?!
Personally i can't see how it's unethical, he's not psychoterapist, surely it's up to you two. I would still want treatment with him, whether he's interested or not. So far it's nothing deep, so I won't feel rejected.
Belle and merry :-D! he did look me up and down a couple of times.
There is always a nurse there and i can't chat with him in situ. Also now I won't see him for another year probably, thought it was a good opportunity.
kissmyheart, I thought of dropping a message but without directly asking. How about a thank you message?
swallowed, very interesting! trauma bonding, eh? I have to say there is something in feeling vulnerable and him being nice, though I hate being in the chair and always am petrified. not a good look. Also you say, won't be the same appeal out of his role - you may have a point! but I really do want o meet a gentle sensitive guy, yet not 'wet', and they are scarce.
you could do what i did. went for a filling, i thought the chair had arms on both sides and was gripping them both as my rather good looking dentist applied the anesthetic injection. turned out there was only one arm on the left, on the right i had been gripping his thigh
at least, i think it was his thigh 
I fancy my dentist too, but tbh I've never considered following it up, I just enjoy looking at him while I'm there. It takes my mind off things 
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he went red, said 'oh, isn't it hot in here' and asked the dental nurse to open a window.
i, on the other hand just wanted the earth to open up and swallow me whole. am only allowed to go to the dentist now with the dc's as chaperones according to dh
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