I don't know why I'm typing this, think I just want a safe outlet without discussing it in real life I suppose.
Basically, my best friend of 23 years is a cheat. She has cheated on her husband (off and on with a number of people) ever since they were first together (about 16 years). She has said many times that 'this is the last time - when I get engaged/ married/ have a baby, it will stop' but she never does.
It's usually with someone at work and usually within work hours, so lunch times, working late, early starts, taking the afternoon off sneakily, work parties etc.
I get told about it everytime and all about the 'fantastic sex' etc, that she loves her husband and child but can't help herself. I try and remain calm and don't respond much (I don't congratulate or berate her). I just ask her questions which I hope will get her to think about her actions.
I feel so bad, I'd never tell her husband as I would not want to be the one to break the news, but he is a nice guy and a good friend to my husband and I. I also start to question all the relationships around me (including mine) as it must be so easy to do without anyone finding out.
I asked her the other day 'What if you started to have feelings for X (the new fling)?' and she said that 'Oh, it's ok, he's married and has a baby, so he's unlikely to want to have a proper relationship anyway'. I just feel sick with that comment. It's as if she cuts out any emotion.
I just wanted to let it all out really, I don't think she thinks that she is doing anyone any harm, that it's all a bit of fun. She is a good friend to me, but it's starting to make me feel awful. She is professional and appears classy, no-one would ever guess.
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My best friend cheats on her husband - I get told all about it, feel bad.
123fourfivesix · 06/01/2012 11:14
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