I'm sorry to be a misery guts but am feeling really miserable tonight. I've just had a row with DH who has just come home from doing sports and is of course on top of the world cos of all those free flowing endorphins....
Anyway, he's not a bad man at all, in fact he's a lovely, lovely man.
We've been married 7 yrs, together 10.
We are VERY different but up until we had kids this seemed not to be a problem. However, we now spend most of our (few) conversations bickering or arguing. It's not nice. It's especially not nice for our kids, though we do keep most of the bickering away from them.
We hardly talk to one another anymore, even when we got away for a weekend by ourselves (so precious) recently, I didn't feel we connected like we used to.
Our lives have of course been completely taken over by our 3 kids. I feel frustrated at the lack of freedom I have. I don't expect much freedom wtih 3 small children, but I am constantly watching the time, and just rnning aroundthe place like a mad thing with all 3 kids in tow.
Then there's us, we don't talk like we used to, we sleep together maybe one every 6 weeks (and then it's nice so not all bad), we don't laugh togehter like we used to, we do have fun sometimes and on the odd occasion DH might be affectionate to me and tell me something nice, but usually it's just the same thing, day in day out, thankless and mind numbing.H
Honestly, if someone decent male came along now and gave me even an iota of attention I'm sure I'd fall for him!
I go to the gym 2ce a week but recently I've started working again part time so don't get to the gym like I used to and I kno that's bugging me too - how come DH gets to do his thing but I don't get to do mine?
I'm sorry for hte moan, but I'm just wondering, does this sound like your average marriage? I often feel disillusioned and disappointed and sad when I think this is going to be it for the rest of my life.... anyone else?
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OnlyMe1971 · 06/12/2011 21:37
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