We were round at my Inlaws this weekend (MIL and Step-FIL) as it was SFILs birthday. My DS is 6 months old and the time we were invited round for was his usual nap time so when we got there i tried to get him to sleep on me which he usual does as when he doesn't nap he gets really grumpy.
MIL started poking his feet and trying to get his attention and when i said he just needed a quick 30 mins nap she reliped with "no because BIL and SIL will be here soon". BIL and SIL arrived and accepted that i was trying to get DS to nap and didnt bother him but FIL got a toy and started to whirl it infront of DS to get his attention.
By now DS woudnt sleep and was happy to smile and giggle at everyone for 10 mins before he got grumpy and overtired and started to cry. Step-FIL suggested he was missing his bed and to just take him home. I said i would try and calm him down in the hallway. My DH came into the hall after about mins and said he was just gonna say we would take him home as he was overtired.
My Step-FIL then told my Dh that next time I wasn't invited as I was causing trouble by not letting then play with DS (like i said if he does not stick to his routine he is grumpy for days and he only needed half hour to get him through till we got home). Anyway my DH said "no you cant treat FF89 like that" at which point Step-FIL grabbed DH and took a swing at him. Luckly BIL got in the way to stop it. This was all infront of my DS who I took outside as quick as i could.
Anyway now DH is saying he wants nothing to do with my PIL and they will never see DS again. I agree that they will not see him unless me and DH are there and I don't really want my DS around people who behave like this but I feel really guilty about cutting grandparents out of DS life.
They have never liked me and I am relived in a way to not have to see them but you see so many threads about grandparents not being involved that i feel DS may resent us when he is older.
What would you do if it was you? (sorry its so long - didnt want to drip-feed)
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Funnyface89 · 06/12/2011 13:23
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