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Last night I split up with DP after nearly 5 years together. We got together very young. It was a tiny thing that tipped me over the edge to end it, but was because basically he's unreliable, immature and 'scared' of the future. However, I still love him so much, and he's my best friend, and day to day things were good - although starting to deteriorate. We live together, and will have to live together until at least mid next year (due to uni/work commitments and that family are v far away and that we can't afford to rent alone). We've decided to try and remain close friends because we don't want to end this horribly.
However, I just feel so empty inside, its as if I'm 'grieving' (sorry can't think of the right word), for the relationship we should of had - twice we nearly got engaged, but he chickened out, rather than the relationship we really had. I felt I gave him everything I could and supported him through everything and 'my everything' wasn't good enough, which has made me feel like shit. He's sleeping in the next room from now on, and has said he will work hard to show he can be mature and reliable, but will be here as my friend and would love to get back with me if I'll let him.
Now I've just read through this and it sounds like such a non problem. I feel totally numb, think I'm still in shock a bit (millionth time I've tried to end it). I feel scared and alone and am already regretting it. I don't want to tell family etc (one friend knows) for a couple of weeks. Basically now that I've done it my mind won't let me remember the shitty things he's done and the ways he's let me down. (Don't want to do too much detail inc ase its identifiable to my friends but he's done things including squandering our joint finances on tat, claiming to have a porn addiction and running up massive bills on our landline, compulsively lying over things whether it be what he had for tea (i mean why bother??) to much bigger things, amongst a ton of other stuff).
Sorry for the ramble I just want to talk it all through with someone, before he comes back from work later, cos i really thought we were going to grow old together :(
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Just split up with DP and don't know what to do now
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ICantDoHandstands · 05/12/2011 18:32
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