I think I want to divorce my husband. But I wanted to chat and I've no one in RL to chat to about this.
It kinda has all came to a head this weekend, but I'll start at the begining. Ok, so before kids we both liked to go out at the weekends and get drunk, or stay in and get drunk. Whatever, alcohol featured as did staying in bed till afternoon, nursing hangovers. Not really an unusual story there.
So four kids later (1 set of twins) my OH still does this. He think as he works hard all week he is entitled to relax at the weekend with a few drinks (I work four days too). Now a few drinks means enough to be drunk, he sits up till about four or five in the morning on the computer chatting to people (probably looking up porn) and listening to music. And funnily enough he won't get up in the morning - in fact he very rarely surfaces before 3-4 pm at the weekend. I have tried shouting and bawling, I have tried cajooling, I've tried pouring cold water on him, nothing works. He either doesn't get up or if he does he is so foul mooded I wish I hadn't bothered.
So on Friday night I was feeling a bit sick and ended up spending the whole night with D&V. I told him i was ill and that he should go to bed as I was not going to be able to get up with the kids in the morning (the kids are 7,5 and 2 year old twins).
He ignored me and went to bed about 5am drunk. And would not get up in the morning. So on Saturday I had to get up with the kids after spending the night puking and having the runs. When he finally got up at 5.30 pm his firsts words were 'jings what a mess' before disappearing out to buy his dinner as oven chips and chicken nuggets that i had made the kids didn't appeal.
And then he wouldn't even help me change the sheets on the bed (one of the kids had puked) or put the kids to bed so i could relax.
The worst is he doesn't really see what the big deal is.
its not just me is it?
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Should I put up or get out?
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