I have an escalating problem with her. It's almost but not quite irrelevant that she's my MIL - I actually can't stand anybody who's like this. But naturally it lends an extra something.
She has a big ego and likes a lot of attention for whatever-it-is she's doing. So if she cooks a meal, all through the making of it, she demands that people hear what she's doing and will put on a girly voice to do it in. If she's got a big project on, it could be months of rather odd, disjointed, pissed texts, emails that repeat the same information, phone calls to tell you the significance of what she's doing.
An example is house renovations. She couldn't just have a conservatory built and like it for what it is. She has to also have a reason that includes you in it. And to repeat that reason for approximately two months, three or four times a week, in different ways.
I've worked out that it's about her being the hub of the family: she's desperate for the role. Her sons are quite distant in their way - they love her and respect her, but it's fair to say they've got the measure of her and know expertly how to brush this shit off. But she is their connection, and she's our connection. It's quite a small family. It's just that it's not enough for her to know this. She has to ram it down your throat at every opportunity and I am heartily sick of it. I feel like I'm having a sentiment (that I'm happy to feel under normal circumstances) just wrung out of me, multiple times, and I HATE that feeling of being controlled and having to respond to her drama and her frankly overblown idea of what she means to people and does for people.
The sad thing is that I love her for all the good points she has but she seems to constantly want more and more vocal recognition from me that she's an absolutely fantastic person. I'm beginning to find her boring, I mean I've always known she's self-involved but so many people are - it's just that it's getting so bad that I'm finding her dull to be around and obviously it irritates the hell out of me.
I need coping strategies!
(Apologies to at least 1 Mner who has seen me just after one of MIL's self-obsessed episodes and I was barely coherent....Just repeated it all here...)
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Have you learned to manage your attention-seeking MIL with good grace and no loss of temper?
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LaPruneDeMaTante · 26/10/2011 19:37
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