namechanged for this one.
I've been with my DP for nearly 4 years. He is a lot younger than me (i'm 40 and he is 25) I know it sounds a bit cliche, but he is the best man I have ever met. He works hard, makes me laugh like I never have and is everything I really want in a man. kind, loyal and always there for me. I was with my horrible abusive ex for many years and finally got away from him - I truly believe I've found my soulmate.
He moved in with me and my dd (six) two years ago and we began trying for a baby a year ago..(he has no children). without success :(
Anyway my G.P has sent us both for tests and he is fine...but I am not. last week The hospital said it's unlikely I will conceive naturally and I am too old for IVF on the nhs - we could never afford to go private.
Now I am wondering whether I can stay with him knowing that I cannot give him a child of his own....he really wants children but has said it doesn't matter and he just wants to be with me - but am I being fair on him?
I don't want to get 5 or 10 years down the line and he buggers off to look for someone who can give him a child. This has kept me awake for the last week...it's stupid I know but I keep crying. everything was so perfect and I finally thought I had found happiness..I love him so much.
what would you do? Is it really possible for a man who so badly wants children to give that up for me? Will he resent me in the future?
tia x
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shall I give up now?
thinkingtoohard · 23/10/2011 11:37
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