My lovely cousin, mid-twenties, has a narcissistic mother (my aunt). She has suffered a lot, is depressed, has had several rounds of counselling and not got anywhere, has always blamed herself for being a not good enough daughter and so on and so forth.
Tonight I told her straight that my aunt was the problem, not her, and mentioned the N-word for the first time. My cousin was completely unaware NPD existed, let alone her mum has it. I explained it to her (I work in MH) and she had an OMG moment, recognising so, so much.
I have given her a lot to think about, but she tells me it has been an eye-opener and helpful. My question is: What can I do now to support her? What should I suggest, or should I suggest anything at all? What should I say and what should I definitely not say? She is once again on a waiting list for counselling and this time, armed with knowledge and understanding, I think it can make a difference, but I would like to do the best I can to support her in what is going to be a long, difficult process.
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PointyBlackHat · 18/10/2011 21:36
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