Was introduced to this guy through a mutual friend. made friends on facebook, chatted on there, then gave him my number and he rang me straight away.
Spent about 3 weeks chatting on the phone, have spoken every night for up to an hour at a time. The chatting is really easy, can talk about anything and he can be quite flirty.
I asked early on to meet up for a coffee but he made excuses and said he was nervous etc. Finally met up for the first time after 3 weeks and went out on a "date" for a meal and then he came back to mine and chatted some more. It was obvious he was really nervous and when he left I got a hug and a kiss on the cheek.
A week later he caome round with his son and stayed for hours, and mostly we were chatting and I got another hug ad a kiss on the cheek. Then today he had a day off and asked if I was around if he could pop by for a cuppa... I put ds2 to bed so it was just us and we chatted again but then he left saying he had stuff to do etc.
He does seem to be relaxing a bit but he still seems awkward, won't sit next to me on sofa or stand too close etc.
I don't know what to do? Am I just being insecure and expecting too much or is this kind of slow burn ok? Tbh, all the other men I have been with, we had sex pretty much early on, but they were all more confident.
I really don't know what to do... We were talking about goign to cinema this week. I would like to do that and wouldn't be too shy to hold his hand or something, but then I get all insecure and wonder if it's cos he doesn't actually fancy me????
Advise needed.... I wouldnt mind waiting for sex, but I would like a bit of physical contact. Should I get brave and initiate it myself??????????
Jeeez, this is worse than being a teenager!!!
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Advice needed... Is he shy or not interested???
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humptydidit · 17/10/2011 12:59
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