argghhh!!
met a nice man a few months ago. nothing whirlwind or exceptionally romantic about it but it was nice having someone that i thought was interested. texting everyday, skypeing here and there all signs were that he was enjoying things the same as i was. planned a visit, went ahead, had a great time, he seemed to aswell, said he did anyway. still texting when i got home for about a week or so but all of a sudden, nothing. no message to say he was going to be busy or that he just wasn't as keen anymore. the last messages were all 'normal' as in no change in mood or anything. i'm so frigging pissed off with myself. why do i let myself bother to like people? what's the point of me even trying? i cant even trust my own judgement, i thought this guy was as keen as me. i sound like a real desperado and i fucking feel like one aswell but i'm not. wasn't looking for anyone when i met him, had resigned myself to the fact that i probably wouldn't meet anyone i liked. should have just ignored him. i dont want this to be my life. i cant do this again and again and make a dick out of myself. swear to god there need's to be some law passed that the right person has a secret neon sign that only you can see, save me all this fucking wasted energy.
rant over. sorry. just feeling sorry for myself.
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just so fucking hacked off and sick to death of myself
Booooooyhoo · 15/10/2011 23:41
O wouldn't be wonderful if life were so simple?
But if it were, how would we learn about ourselves and grow our characters if we didn't meet with adversity or challenge in matters romantic as well as in other areas?
You're down but not out, honey. Indulge yourself in a good wallow and rage at Cupid's cruelty - and then have a 
and some chocs before picking yourself up off the floor and setting forth to find your perfect match again and again and etc
He is out there somewhere and he's probably feeling just the way you do now. Have faith - you'll find him or he'll find you sooner rather than later.
i did get myself a chinese and rent a few movies this evening! 
i know you are right, and i know i will swear off even thinking about men...until someone else comes along and i forget all this and let myself think once again that somoene actually likes me. it just sucks ass right now. feel like such an idiot. i dont want to be one of thos epeople who goes through a huge list of men and never finds one to keep or one that even wants to stic around for that matter.
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not sure bejeezus. you could be right. i just have this feeling, i know it well enough by now!!
prawn crackers all gone, ds came home from his dad's and devoured what was left of them
Hey OP...it's pants isn't it...big shitty pants! I feel for you. I've got the tee. One lame duck after another but they hid it well for a while. Now I'm looking at what I've always done and trying to change it...because if what I've always done keeps landing me with said ducks then things have to change. No point whirring round and round getting the same lamo outcome. I'm 41 ffs and tired of this crap. Hope you enjoyed your Chinese! 
Tomorrow is a new day...Baggage Reclaim
What an arse... 
If it's any consolation, I dated a man like this who pulled a disappearing act, only to return a couple of months later claiming he'd had a collapsed lung and been in hospital! I knew he was lying and this was confirmed by a friend of his who I bumped into shortly afterwards.
It never ceases to amaze me how many men behave like this - and how many reappear following no contact for weeks, with some complete bullshit story.
Having said that, I've dated some wonderful men too, you just need to learn how to fine-tune your bullshit detector! :)
Oh Boooooyhoo I've so been there. I never understand why people do this, but they do. The weirdest one I had, the guy chased me for weeks, really full on and so we had a few dates. He seemed really nice, although had not long separated 
Anyway, three weeks in, he told me to make sure my passpost was up to date, he was taking me somewhere fab for the weekend. Great, got a bag all packed and told the girls so we were trying to figure out what clothes I'd need for all eventuallities.
He arrives to collect me a Saturday lunch time, carrying a huge bouquet of flowers 
Seemed odd, we were going away. Then he asked if there was anything to eat, so I made some pasta. Then .... asked me if I fancied seeing a movie!
What the actual? And here is where it gets weirder. I walked into my bedroom and hid the overnight bag in the wardrobe as I was embarrassed in case he saw it! As if I'd imagined the whole thing! And I went to the fucking cinema! On route,, my pal rings to see if I'm going to Paris or Rome, I'm too mortified to tell her in front of him what's going on, just talked in code.
I dumped him a week later, why on earth I didn't tell him there and then I'll never know. I think I was scared of seeming too interested in a weekend in Paris, when the real issue was his total lack of explanation.
I still look back of that and laugh. The flags were all there of course. But why couldn't he just text/call and tell me plans were changed? Madness.
You will pick yourself up in no time, the guys who can't be honest about what they want are really not worth anymore introspection. This just frees you up for the nice ones who are still out there, and there are loads of them. xx
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No, not a word Booooyhoo, just blithely carried on the day as if it was the morst normal thing in the world. That's the worry I think, that ability to act so normal, he must have known I was confused.
Upwards and Onwards my love, this is just sorting the wheat from the chaff 
Please let's not go down that road of 'he may have lost his index finger and cannot dial the phone'
He's toast, NEXT!
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