Really hope some of you lovely ladies can give me some advice here :)
She is extremely manipulative, controlling and has a very short, agressive temper that she loses whenever things dont go her way. <br /> <br /> She has done some really awful things to me in the past- the latest was sending cards to my OH, making out they were from another woman and making out that he was about to dump me. There were some pretty nasty things said about me in them too. She deinied it was her, but I know it was her by the writing!<br /> <br /> She effectively ended a relationship I had years ago before I got with OH, by telling him that I had taken drugs the night before. He had every reason to believe her, as they had known each other for years and years and we
d only been together for six months or so. He told me that although he would have never have thought that Id take drugs, he also couldn
t see why someone he d known and trusted most of his life would lie to him. <br /> <br /> There
s other stuff too, like arranging to meet me and not turning up, never being thereShes when I need support, lots of other minor things that I could list but simply don
t have the energy.
Shes done some really bizzare things to other people too. She once pooed in a tupperware box and left it outisde a neighbours house after they complained about her being too noisy at 3 in the morning. She has smashed her house up numrerous times. She self harms (a lot). She has just one other friend, who also has issues and whose behaviour can also be downright odd.<br /> <br /> I know people are probably wondering why I
m still friends with her, but Im finding it really hard to break away from her. She never used to be like this, its only in the past few years thats shes been acting this way. Sometimes I catch a glimpse of how she used to be, (a really lovely person) but thats very rare now. It
s like shes turning into someone else. And that someone is downright nasty.
Shes just receantly been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder. Is this typical behavior? I really don
t want to offen anyone on here who has the condtion. How much of this can be put down to that? Do I just walk away? She has pushed most of her family away due to her behaviour and I would feel bad about cutting off contact with her, as mad as that sounds. I want to try and help her but its draining me trying to be friends with her at the moment.
Sorry about the long post, and I hope at least some of this makes sense :)
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moonriver · 14/10/2011 20:12
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