To P who was on her way to the police station today...

[FagAshLill]

This is a weird thread and I hope it gets to her eventually. It wont make sense to anyone else but her and her closest 2 friends she told me about.

I'm sorry I had to leave in such a rush, I wanted to sit there and talk to you in Starbucks until you felt better. I hope the police are helping you and that someone can give you some good advice. I hope you took my advice and went to another solicitor and are thinking about dropping the one you have hired.

Your daughters will come around eventually so please have faith that you have bought them up well. Stop doubting yourself, you know what you have done, said and have - dont let anyone else think otherwise or convince you into something else. Dont stress about the small things, everything that is on file can be printed off again and as for the other thing...yes it is a lot, but it's nothing if that's what it takes to get of the problem you have now.

If others do not let you say what you have to say or will not give you the time of day because of what they believe, then leave them to it. They are not worth the space in your head.

I'm so sorry you are going through this but I do believe that you will be better for it.

I do hope I see you again, even if just in passing, happier and sure of yourself.

[Avenged]

Sounds like you need this bumped up a bit now and again. Is the person you're talking about a MNer??

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[bibbitybobbityhat]

Do you not have her phone number?

[Avenged]

Is this person going through a hard time due to rumours/lies etc?

[Avenged]

If this thread slides down the page a bit, can some of us try and bump it up in case this particular person needs to see it.

[springlamb]

Bumped.
Never underestimate the power of a word from a kind stranger.

[peterpan99]

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[CumpyGrunt]

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[topsyturner]

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[dwpanxt]

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[LoopyLoopsPussInBoots]

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[FagAshLill]

It's strange as I NEVER do anything like I did today.

We met on public transport and after a very angry phone call she received she started to cry and explain to me and the woman next to me what was happening.

The woman next to me practially ran away but the thing that struck me was that the woman opposite me just couldnt seem to stop herself talking and it was like a torrent coming out of her...and I recognised it. It was me just over a year ago. I was in that place and just KNEW that she needed someone to listen even if just for 5 mintues...so that's what I did.

I didnt care what anyone thought and told her that I was taking her for a coffee before she goes to the police station to collect herself and get a few things straight in her mind so she was clearer and wasnt taking No for an answer.

So I did. She sobbed her way through her coffee and slowly started to become a little more together if you see what I mean. Before we knew we had sat there for 2 hours and I was running late to pick the kids up. I had to leave her at the bus stop, we never exchanged names formally, just in passing but I'm sure it started with a P. I doubt she's a MN'er but I'm hoping someone may have an idea of who I am talking about and just let her know a few things I never got the chance to tell her.

I just want to get it through to her to stop doubting herself and second guessing things she has done. Years of gaslighting and lies have, from what I have seen, reduced her to the point where she's not convinced if she has turned the house alarm off even though she did it a few minutes before hand.

I hated having to leave her and wanted to listen to her until she felt better and more convinced in herself and just a little more collected. There is a strength in her and she has drawn on it before today...maybe she needed a bit of a boost or just someone to listen to help her clear things up in her mind as she talked about them. IYKWIM.

I must seem like a complete mug or idiot to most people now, but I just cant explain it. Something in my head was screaming "Talk to her, listen to her". I never give anyone the time of day usully and rarely make eye contact and love being in my own little world, but there was just something that was crying out for help.

I doubt I will ever see her again but I really, really do hope that things turn out in her favor. I dont want to go into details as it's not my place so that's all I can say about it.

I feel like an idot now but I dont regret doing it. It's weird.

[fannybanjo]

What a kind person you are and I hope this "P" has the strength to do the right thing. I agree with you, sometimes you meet someone and something in their eyes tell you that they need help.

[fatcaaah]

You're not an idiot. You sound lovely.

I'm sure this lady will be eternally grateful to the stranger who was so kind to her today.

[LauraIngallsWilder]

Fagashlilll - I think you are amazing to show you care for someone in need like that!
Whatever this persons situation is you have obviously helped her a lot

[medal]

[BecauseImWorthIt]

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[fannybanjo]

Oh she'll remember for the rest of her life.

[FagAshLill]

Please dont praise me, I didnt post it for that, I'm just trying to think of anywhay where I can possibly get this through to her or someone who may recognise her through this.

[FagAshLill]

anywhay?

Any way.

[GaramMasalaGirl]

FagAshLil - I was brought to tears by your post. Your kindness and compassion are evident.

I'm like you...in that I prefer to be in my own little world. I hope that I have strength and the insight to see when someone needs my help.

And more than anything I hope "P" is safe and finds the peace and happiness she is seeking. xxx

[ChippingIn]

I hope she sees it too.

[GoresHairKnickers]

You are not a mug at all...I have done similar and I think everyone at some time or other needs an Angel to help guide them or listen to them...you were her Angel today. Well done.

[garlicScaresVampires]

Some bloke did that for me once, late at night in Middlesbrough, a very long time ago. It's worth everything, and you never do forget. It would be nice if P sees this thread - and I hope she went to the police, found people she can trust, and is safe.

[HeadlessLamAAARRRGHHHH]

I'm so glad you did this for a random stranger, and I hope she gets the help she needs. I spent two hours with a woman I saw crying in a shopping centre. Everyone else just walked past and I found I couldn't. I sat and listened, then got us both coffee and listened some more. I'd like to think I helped. I was just horrified at so many people ignoring her.

[CumpyGrunt]

Bump for the morning crowd.

[GoresHairKnickers]

When I was a bus driver driving a number 12 Routemaster in Notting Hill some 20 years ago, I saw a young woman at a bus stop crouched down absolutely sobbing her heart out... my heart broke to see her but I could do nothing as I had a bus load and a time card. I have thought of that lady so many times over the years, wondering if she was/is Ok and if anybody helped her...