DH announced he wants to live separately. None else involved, but we row like crazy and he can't bear it anymore. We have one DD age 7. He wants 50 50 childcare and a 50 50 split of the savings/sale of house. No divorce yet; just a split of assets and live separately. But...at the mo he doesn't do 50% of the childcare, does about 20%. I don't want him to have our DD 50% of the time. And even if time-wise he had her 50% of the time I would still end up doing more than him as he doesn't get involved with the school, doesn't take her to the hospital appts(she has ongoing health issues)And I came to the marriage with four times what he has in terms of savings/assets, so 50 50 doesn't seem fair. We've been married 6 years. My health has also declined rapidly in that time so my earning potential is far lower than his and far lower than it was when I met him, so I would never be able to build up the assets I had when I met him again. If we split 50 50 now I end up with far less than I had when I met him. I thought of suggesting we go thirds, a third to him, a third to me and a third in an account to use for DD or to use if either of us are in dire straits. I imagine that'll be me as I will be looking after DD mostly so won't be able to work as much as him, I'll also be ill off an on with my ongoing condition so will not be able to work as much as him. I'm scared of the future though I'm looking froward to having him out of the way. He drives me mad.
Any suggestions as to how to split assets and childcare?
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Husband wants to leave me; advice needed
forsooth · 12/10/2011 15:18
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