Aibu. I have posted before under a different username about my dp ANC how my he goes out. He goes out 3 nights a week (I work 3 of the other nights) and on a sat often goes to football. We arranged a week annual leave together commencing 17th oct. Dd is one on the weekend of that week. I have nothing planned but thought I could invite dp family over on the fri, go to my mums on the sat see my fam my mum will do somesort of cake and etc and piton nibbles sort of thing. Then let friends come round on sun none of this is set in stone of course and just kinda wanted a birthday weekend for her but nothing costly. Anyhow dp knew this but has now arranged to see his friend in a boxing match and us going to stay there all day all evening on the Sunday, he doesn't even know the guy well but a couple of his good friends are going. I was quite annoyed and upset when he told mehe bought a ticket. He said well nothing is set in stone for dd birthday and he is right it wasn't and Sunday isn't her actual birthday. I still felt really annoyed and he got annoyed with me about making him feel guilty about going he said 'fine I won't bother going then!!!' and I stupidly replied as normal 'oh sorry go then I am being silly about it' as that is how I feel at the time.
I spoke to my mum earlier she cannot do the party thing at hers now because she has to help move her office. She asked if we could do it on Sunday at hers and I had to say no because of dp being at said boxing match. But now it's caused another row because I feel so angry that he lives like a single man with added benefit of children. Having said that when I talk to him about it he always makes me feel like I am the most pathetic silly person for getting annoyed.
So come on people tell me am I being stupid pathetic and a nag for always moaning at him forgoing out, and especially one dd first birthday weekend. Or am I being reasonable in thinking he needs to start saying no to things and think of us and our girls first.
I really have lost all perspective after having the same old argument for the last 3 years!!
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Homelybird · 12/10/2011 14:45
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