I don't really have any friends. There, I said it. I'm 21 and should be at the peak of social interaction, so not only do I feel upset about not having really any friends, but pretty humiliated too. It also consistently undermines any self-confidence I do have because it makes me fear that my worth as a person can't be very great if no one wants to be friends with me. I'm really close to my df and my boyfriend but certain events in the last couple of days (wrt boyfriend) really woke me up to the fact that I need to develop other close relationships. I really would like to have a female 'best friend', especially as boyfriend is long-distance.
The problems that I have with socialising are that I find groups very uncomfortable and incredibly exhausting and that so much socialising I see/experience seems false and flakey. I have certain emotional difficulties which seem to have got in the way of past friendships, but that was when I was a younger teenager and not really aware of the issues so perhaps I could deal better with them now.
I've just moved to a new country (quite small town with few people my age) where I don't speak the language fluently so I don't really know where to turn. I'm only living here for a year so am a bit torn about what to do.
It's perfectly acceptable to place in ad in a newspaper looking for a romantic relationship, but asking for friends is not the done thing, is it? It looks a bit desperate, I suppose.
What to do?
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Rosmarin · 11/10/2011 22:20
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