Ok, i have a question. Will start by saying i never dreamed i would be on here asking an actual question like this, but here goes: anyway at the weekend i slept with a new bloke that i have been seeing, it is fair to say that i have slept with enough men to make me fairly experienced in most things, without going into too much detail, basically this bloke did not give any indication that he was going to come, made no sounds during, and then did come and i only knew cos he told me a couple of minutes later when he sussed that i hadnt come.has anyone else had this, cos i certainly havent,even the quietest of men makes some kind of noise..or just something... It just seemed weird, i mentioned it, casually cos i didnt want to make it a huge issue, about the fact that i had no idea what jad been going on in his head/what he had or hadnt liked etc and he seemed to think that it was funny that i mentioned it. So, any thoughts greatfully recieved really.... Oh this is a totally genuine post, i know there have been a few dubious ones in the last few days.
I once had a boyfriend who was like that. Absolute silence. Not even heavier breathing or anything. But after a while with him, it got to the stage where I would just sort of know. How I'm not sure - there must have been very subtle signals that I picked up on I guess but I couldn't name them.
I never liked his silence though. Especially since I'm quite noisy - it was weird.
Vampires, yes he did deffinetly come.. Makeyerown, yeah it is weird, i'll just have to wait an see i guess.. Did you mention it to your ex at all ? I just cant help thinking that if it didnt 'need' to make any noise then it cant of been that good for him, although that wasnt really the impressin i got from him.. He is quite young, msybe its inexperience ?
I've had a few quiet ones. In my experience it's nice to just moan or something, so your partner knows - even if silence is the norm when alone. I mean, it's just polite, innit? The noisier the better, but then I'm quite noisy so I just felt stupid being in bed with someone who was silent as the grave the whole way through.
Manshape used to be very quiet when we first got together. We spoke about it and he said it was because he'd spent so long with his DS sleeping in the same room that if he was going to do it it had to be done quietly.
Wow exrental, that was a brave confession on here !!! Thanks though for the point of view, its certainly not something i had ever thought of....glad you dont do it any more. Thanks everyone else who answered my question, at least i know its not abnormal !
The guy I went out with before dp never made any noise and I really disliked it. It was unnerving, tbh. Plus, he used to make disparaging comments when I did anything louder than a bit of slightly-heavier-than-normal breathing He was crap in bed though anyway, ishooos a-go-go...
For some reason I was very quiet with one woman I slept with; I'm more enthusiastic generally and give much more indication that I'm coming unless there are good reasons to be quiet such as paper-thin walls or general lack of privacy. I prefer to make the noise and show appreciation, and like it when my partner makes noises too. Offers?
I met quite a few of those, actually. It's a bit odd - though, hopefully, I'd be so busy having a (noisy) good time, I might not notice I was more of a solo than a duet But I cannot STAND announcements! I've never been so rude as to say so - each to his own - but I'd be in a right old quandary if I met Mr Right This Time and he turned out to be an "I'm coming" commentator
I've never been with a man who made a noise! I'm surprised so many do. In fact for my first few boyfriends I thought that men always just thrusted extra hard at that point. Took me by surprise when I first slept with someone who did a "big" thrust in the middle and then carried on and even more so when he came on one of the smaller ones - I had always thought the "big" one was involuntary.
But no. Never come across a man who makes a noise. DP does heavy breathing/grunts a bit sometimes if it's really good, but mostly I can just tell because he starts sweating. He is always embarrassed to do the grunting thing. He says it sounds stupid. I can sympathise - I think female noises sound stupid, I don't think I could ever make a sex tape, I'd be unable to watch it without dying of embarrassment.