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Give me strength

(6 Posts)
Jo61 Tue 11-Oct-11 16:22:58

What can I do on a practical level to get through all the emational crap that surrounds the breakdown of my 22 year marriage?

bumbums Tue 11-Oct-11 16:26:19

Pamper your self. Have massages, do Spa days, have a mini break somewhere, get your hair done, buy some new clothes, start exercising, seek counselling, speak to friends and family.

Cut yourself a large amount of slack. They stress will get to you and you will be exhausted more easily.

ItsMeAndMyPumpkinNow Tue 11-Oct-11 16:28:29

- talk to friends
- socialise
- be kind to yourself: treats like new shoes, bubble bath, ...
- cry when you need to. It's OK to grieve.
- see your GP about anti-depressants or counselling if you need to.
- ditto getting signed off work if you need it. Some prefer to throw themselves into their work - YMMV
- if it is practical (ie. if one of you has already left the house), then cut off contact with your stbxh in order to not torture yourself with "what ifs"


izzywhizzysfritenite Tue 11-Oct-11 16:32:35

Here's your earlier thread:

Take a look at other posts/threads on here from women who know only too wellwhat you're going through because they've been there themselves, or they are currently in the same place as you are.

On a basic practical level, clean/clear the house of any lingering traces of the twunt, buy new bedlinen, re-arrange furniture, and begin the slow process of rediscovering yourself and validating your feelings.

Poppysquad Tue 11-Oct-11 17:20:57

Does anyone know of any good books that might help?

isthistoomessy Tue 11-Oct-11 20:16:33

Agree give yourself a lot of slack. try and plan - i particularly find sundays dificult, as everyone is with their own families and i dont want to intrude (dont know your circumstances, so you may have company on a sunday!)

new bedlinen is a definite!

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