I have two children 5 and 3. My husband is the nicest guy in the world but i feel suffocated by him. He has no interests and very few friends, his life is the family. He has no ambition, no drive and is the complete opposite to me. I have dreams and although he says he supports them he makes it very hard. The passion has gone from our relationship and i try to avoid intimacy with him as much as i can (and he has realised this).
I am the main earner, but we have a lot of debt. Our household income is too high to get any benefits. I can visualise my life without him and believe it would be more rewarding. I left him once before a long long time ago before we were even married but I came back because I felt so guilty. He said all he wanted was me and he really withdrew into himself. I love him like a brother and I do not want to hurt him but I am not sure I can stay with him either as I feel that is not being fair to my dreams.
I have felt like this for a year now and done nothing about it. We don?t argue, we just exist and I want to live not exist. I also don?t know how to leave, I want the girls with me and feel it would be very hard to tell him I want to separate and then ask him to leave the home. He has no where to go and because of the debt I don?t think he could afford to go anywhere. I am stuck just feeling so low and not knowing what to do. I love him but I have not been in love with him for a long long time.
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MGIB33 · 11/10/2011 09:43
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