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Tell me how to get a grip of my emotions

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ToddlersRFab Mon 10-Oct-11 21:49:35

Quick summary....

1/9/2011 - H said he was leaving me - no one else involved - he would move out in a month.
4/9/2011 - I asked him to leave as he was so ecstatically happy at leaving me and DS (3) and I couldn't cope with his behaviour around me.
12/9/2011 - I had to stay away on business, so H came back home to look after DS. He brought the other woman to stay at our house.
13/9/2011 - I came home early and found out what had been going on.....

3 weeks of melt down on my behalf...... but I am getting there now.

However I can't stop reading his twitter account which he keeps updating with his sexual behaviour with new woman ....................... and its driving me mad.

How do I stop reading what he's up to???????????????????????????????? It hurts, I'm jealous, I'm angry and I fucking hate him for doing it!

And yes I know I should just ignore it - but as I am sure you all know - its easier said than done.

Wise words please......

kunahero Mon 10-Oct-11 21:54:19

there is only one way.

Stop doing it.

Dont go on twitter, delete it from your browser, stop following him.

SingingTunelessly Mon 10-Oct-11 21:54:37

Jeez how awful for you Toddlers. Sorry but am shock at the fact that he puts his sex life on Twitter?! You must stop reading it obviously which must be easier said than done I understand. Un-follow him or whatever it is you do on Twitter.

Seriously now ask yourself why on earth you would want to be with a low-life that can act like this.

Sorry that you are going through such a horrible time. sad

RabbitPie Mon 10-Oct-11 21:54:52

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izzywhizzysfritenite Tue 11-Oct-11 05:44:41

Only 3 weeks of meltdown? You're some tough cookie, honey and you're doing just fine!

Follow Rabbit's sound advice - print out all his pathetic boasting and avail yourself of a free half hour consultation with a solicitor specialising in divorce and family law.

And send the twunt a brief text thanking him for posting his adulterous antics on twitter and making it so easy for you to file for divorce.

izzywhizzysfritenite Tue 11-Oct-11 05:50:18

I should have added that I have a feeling that, after you've sent the suggested text, you won't find a great deal to read on his twitter pages.

I sometimes wonder what twunts like yours are on - is it ego trips, viagra, or something in the water? Whatever it is, it renders them truly P.A.T.H.E.T.I.C.

ChildofIsis Tue 11-Oct-11 05:55:29

According to my solicitor if there's proof of adultery a divorce can be granted within months and the guilty party bears the brunt of the costs, whoever started proceedings.
I'm going through similar with my xh no twitter but I found proof of sex toys etc being bought for ow.
Whilst we used to use them I'd always been the driving force and had always paid for them so I was less than chuffed to discover what he's been up to.

With hindsight he's acting with her like he did in the beginning with me, it's all about control and the sex is used to control the partner. Plenty of sex to start with then as the years wore on the withholding of sex when he wasn't happy about something.

Thank goodness I'm free of him, I can find someone who wants me as much as I want them. No more desperate waiting to see if I'll be noticed.

izzywhizzysfritenite Tue 11-Oct-11 06:53:33

Jeez Isis, you have to chuckle. The twunt doesn't have an original thought in his head - even when it comes to buying sex toys for OW I doubt he'd have thought of them all by himself. You are well shot of such a pathetic dick led asshole.

Find yourself a solicitor that's up to speed like Isis's, Toddlers.

TiredOfGoingRoundInCircles Tue 11-Oct-11 07:47:09

OP, so sorry to hear this, it's horrendous sad
But, you have to stop reading it. Maybe try the 'putting off' technique? e.g. 'I won't read it now, I'll read it in an hour's time' - then just keep putting it off.

jjgirl Tue 11-Oct-11 12:55:22

so his twitter account is public and he is putting all his sexual exploits on it?

<evil thoughts emoticon> as a web developer i could think of a few things i could do with the twitter API to make his actions even more public, oh dear his boss or parents might find out?

sorry just cant resist these evils thoughts, it would me make me feel way better than just ignoring all the tweets.

please follow other peoples advice and not mine.

Nippysnippy Tue 11-Oct-11 13:19:10

You are still in shock and trying to understand. This isn't going to help though. Book in with a professional. You need a decent neutral outlet to unravel this.
He is pondlife.
I think he is putting this stuff out there for you to read. To further hurt you. Jeez you would think that having an affair and all the dishonesty that involved would bring about some idea of shame on his part. He seems like a sadist.
Unfollow him on twitter etc. He will know you have done this sending him a clear message. Refuse to have any further dealings with this man. Contact etc through solicitors. You have to cut the cancer out now.

isthistoomessy Tue 11-Oct-11 20:21:05

How tough for you. I can imagine it is almost impossible to stop following him online, but for your own sanity i think you have to try. How you do that, i dont know...sorry

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