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Fucked up big style.

(184 Posts)
Fuckedupagain Mon 10-Oct-11 19:47:47

I been sacked today.

For doing something inappropriate at work. Totally my own fault. Am devastated.

It involves another person, who is 3 days into a 2 week holiday with his df.

Aside from my own shame, embarrassment and general self-hatred, I don't know whether to try and get in contact with him. Nothing he can do, will ruin his holiday.

Such a fucking mess.

rubyslippers Mon 10-Oct-11 19:48:39

Don't try to contact him

Do you have some real life support?

lifechanger Mon 10-Oct-11 19:49:53

Is he looking at dismissal too on his return?

Collision Mon 10-Oct-11 19:50:58

What on earth did you do?

said Mon 10-Oct-11 19:51:02

Has he been sacked as well and doesn't know ye?

thisisyesterday Mon 10-Oct-11 19:52:13

oh dear.
do you have a partner/husband?

i wouldn't try and contact the other person.

Kayano Mon 10-Oct-11 19:52:51

I'm sorry you got sacked

But YABU to not post what you guys did to get instant dismissal! wink

FabbyChic Mon 10-Oct-11 19:54:26

Did you shag over the photo copier and take pics?

izzywhizzyletsgetbusy Mon 10-Oct-11 19:54:27

Instant dismissal? No warnings? What on earth did you do and what effect will your actions/behaviour have on your unsuspecting colleague?

Fuckedupagain Mon 10-Oct-11 19:55:37

Yes to husband.

Yes, he could be sacked too, but I'm not sure.

There isn't anything to be gained by telling him.

I am devastated

Sorry for the self pity. I don't deserve sympathy.

FearTricksPotter Mon 10-Oct-11 19:57:10

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Collision Mon 10-Oct-11 19:57:39

We are going to need to know what happened before we can judge make an assessment of the situation.

glitterkitty Mon 10-Oct-11 19:57:47

Bloody hell, dont be too hard on yourself. You may have fucked up but you are still the same person you were before this happened. Not an evil monkey or anything.

Much sympathy. Gotta tell DH?

toadoftoadhall Mon 10-Oct-11 19:57:54

Can you tell him after he gets back from holiday but before he gets back to work? I wouldn't tell him whilst he is away, there isn't anything he can do.

HairyGrotter Mon 10-Oct-11 19:58:12

I seriously need to know the details, I'm going to be that brazen about it.

FabbyChic Mon 10-Oct-11 19:59:04

Personally I would tell him so that he had advance warning. It is really hard to be instantly dismissed nowadys with all the new rules in force. You must have done something really bad.

bubblegumpop Mon 10-Oct-11 19:59:18

Devastated because you got caught? Now partners are gonna find out.

Shagging in the work place is instant grounds for dismissal. That is what it is no?

stripeybump Mon 10-Oct-11 19:59:28

Oh gwan tell us what mischief you got up to - it can't be that bad and the worst is probably over now.

Fuckedupagain Mon 10-Oct-11 20:00:09

Dismissal above board as was contract. Inappropriate use of company communication.

No reason to think I have any case for unfair dismissal.

AnnetteProfit Mon 10-Oct-11 20:00:17

is this AIBU by stealth?

thisisyesterday Mon 10-Oct-11 20:00:20

i assumed shagging at work too.

have you told DH?

BluddyMoFo Mon 10-Oct-11 20:01:12

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

ChippingIn Mon 10-Oct-11 20:01:16

Oh - does this mean you are going to have to confess to your DH?

Were they within their rights to fire you?

bubblegumpop Mon 10-Oct-11 20:01:47

Well telling him wont help you. I would suggest concentrating on your husband?

picnicbasketcase Mon 10-Oct-11 20:01:48

Sex emails / dirty jokes then?

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