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Is this desperate, sad or weird?

(22 Posts)
RueDay Sun 09-Oct-11 10:31:45

Hello All,

Just joined and looking for some advice views on something that has happened.

Very briefly, I split with my ex earlier this year, he wanted to meet up afterwards, I decideded as it had been draining to have some space and suggested we meet in a few months for coffee as I wanted space.

He then said he was leaving the country for a year, had all the details etc and I belived him, realised I would miss him and said ok I will meet to say good bye as I will miss you.

Then found out it was a complete lie, he's not going anywhere, I was livid, felt completely manipulated.

Is this weird or desperate or just odd?.

I'm baffled

RueDay Sun 09-Oct-11 10:33:15

Tried to name change for this, as I have history with this person.

I have completely lost it with him and gone mental at him for lying.

madonnawhore Sun 09-Oct-11 10:37:56

Desperate and weird. And manipulative and controlling.

Bit concerned you had to even ask.

Dont meet up with him again.

Suckstobeme Sun 09-Oct-11 10:38:09

Very manipulating but it worked!

Grumpla Sun 09-Oct-11 10:40:24

He was hoping for a farewell shag.

RueDay Sun 09-Oct-11 10:41:56

The worst thing is yes it worked, but when I questioned it as he can lie, he sent pictures of his new house and visa details, so I thought ok must be true

Annoyed at myself, one of my girlfriends said it was romantic, I am less sure

togetherwehaveitall Sun 09-Oct-11 10:44:42

Its manipulative.

IvyAndGold Sun 09-Oct-11 10:45:59

What the hell? confused Very weird, and NOT romantic. Also a huge reason to never get back with him! So manipulative!

natashakaplinkyplop Sun 09-Oct-11 10:48:22

Very weird. How old is he?

RueDay Sun 09-Oct-11 10:49:31

in his 40's

fanjoforthemammaries7850 Sun 09-Oct-11 10:51:42

Not romantic. You have had a lucky escape from this man!

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BertieBotts Sun 09-Oct-11 10:56:16

Argh, why is manipulative behaviour constantly seen as "romantic" by some people? Is your friend a Twilight fan by any chance? grin

You sound well shot of him. I wouldn't trust him as far as you can throw him from now on.

RueDay Sun 09-Oct-11 10:57:29

She meant well, she said o well he must really want you back.

BertieBotts Sun 09-Oct-11 10:58:23

He wants you back, yeah, to prove that he can. Not because he really loves and cares for you.

RueDay Sun 09-Oct-11 11:00:05

Fraid I think that is the case really.

natashakaplinkyplop Sun 09-Oct-11 11:02:36

He's a grown up then... very strange.
If he's lying about things like that, what else has he lied about?
Keep well clear.

RueDay Sun 09-Oct-11 11:04:09

Thanks I feel better now, I completely lost the plot when I found out, told him he was a sad desperate loser, etc etc etc etc really horrible stuff

natashakaplinkyplop Sun 09-Oct-11 11:13:18

It reminds me of an old friend if mine who tried to get her ex back by saying she was pg...she was in her teens at the time.
Making up stories like that, when you're a grown-up... weird!

Don't feel bad for the things you said, he brought it all on himself.

Delete/block his number.

buzzskeleton Sun 09-Oct-11 11:43:52

Well done on telling him what a wanker he is grin. He's a freaky freaker.

It's not romantic and it's not because he loves you soooo much. Love isn't selfish, deceptive and freaky.

RueDay Sun 09-Oct-11 11:45:35

freaky freaker...love it!!!

HaveALittleFaithBaby Sun 09-Oct-11 16:05:21

You are well shot of him! The main thing I think you should take from this is that you made a very wise decision smile

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