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Domestic Violence

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Angel786 Fri 07-Oct-11 15:41:28


Just seen a AWFUL photo of a woman stabbed in Turkey (photo still shows the knife in her back). It brought back some memories and just wondered if any of you witnessed domestic violence in childhood and how it affected you in later life?

Personally I witnessed quite a lot from as early as I can remember up until 24 (almost 10 years ago). But I don't think it's really affected me as I seem quite normal? The only thing is I hide my emotions at work and don't like to cry in public (which is also quite normal?).

My parents now get on very well and the violence has ended.

ItsMeAndMyPumpkinNow Fri 07-Oct-11 15:59:00

Can you get counselling, to discuss the memories that this photo evoked with someone who will help you make sense of how it has affected you?

Angel786 Fri 07-Oct-11 16:05:22

Maybe Pumpkin to be honest, I was more curious than anything-else to see if people have been through similar experiences and also come out rather unscathed?

Makes me wonder if that is a 'normal' reaction if there is any such thing.

ItsMeAndMyPumpkinNow Fri 07-Oct-11 16:18:11

There is no one-size-fits-all experience for children who witnessed domestic violence, but I would strongly suspect that you are probably more affected than even you realise, if a picture of a stabbing brought to mind your home life.

Onemorning Fri 07-Oct-11 17:47:34

Hi Angel, I witnessed dv as a child and ended up in bad relationships with abusive men, low self esteem and depression. It's possible that you're not affected (and fab if you're not) but, as Pumpkin said, it might be worth thinking about counselling?

Angel786 Sat 08-Oct-11 16:14:44

Sorry to hear that one morning my middle sister has had similar eeriences to you, one v controlling man who destroyed any self esteem she had.

Yes, maybe it's worth a chat, just to be sure.

I hope you've managed to break free of the bad relationships and are feeling a bit better x

Ps I don't usually put kisses!

Onemorning Sat 08-Oct-11 16:28:08

Hi Angel

I'm still working on the self-esteem issues but generally things are on the up, I am married to a lovely man who is not abusive at all. Thanks for the support smile

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