Just wondering if any of you lovely experienced ladies could perhaps help me out? Many of you seem very clear and sorted about such issues. I have always got on well with my mother(I'm eldest of 3) but looking back I think its because I was almost like a clone-thought like her ,always agreed with her etc. I suffered very severely with anorexia and bulimia from age 12 until 30(now 47) and to this day I dont know what triggered it. My mother is a very cold,hard lady-great fun,life and soul of party,popular with friends etc but hard as nails. Growing up we had a lovely life etc but never any praise or encouragement- mostly criticism(but not in a severe way) and always trying hard to please. I moved to another country when I was 21 and got married,had 2 kids etc and went back to visit a lot.Then my darling dad(who was wonderful) died 8 yrs ago and we decided to move back near my mother for many reasons- schools better, dh job prospects better etc but once we came back I cannot describe the anger and vitriol that I felt for my mother being so close to her again on a daily basis after 17 yrs away-disagreed with her about everything,constantly arguing with her etc. She would be very involved in our day to day lives but still a very cold,hard overly-critical woman. My ds was recently diagnosed with Aspergers which we are still coming to terms with and we were advised by all the professionals to only tell people on a need to know basis and I discovered last week that she has gone and told her little group of friends which I had specifically asked her not to do. I feel so hurt and let down by her-again- and when telling her as much on phone last week she hung up and no contact since. I think I will completely cease contact now but I am wondering if anyone else has experienced such intense anger for what appears to be no apparant reason. I have always been an angry ,insecure person but I just want to discover what has caused such intense feelings of anger,almost hatred at times. Has anyone got any experience of a similar situation? Sorry I've gone on a bit.
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About to cease contact with mother-why do I feel such anger?
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Thumbelina46 · 07/10/2011 13:35
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